jail time

ok why is is tht men can treat us like shit and not have any real conquences there isnt any!!! I just found out tht my ex husband who treated me like shit for 9 years, only got a matter of hours in jail!!!! I guess the only real reward I got was freedom. but now I am fighting to regain myself like sleepin like a normal person.. I just ordered a new bed. I have been sleepin on the couch. I have a two apt with my two kids. I am trying to face all my quiks tht I am left with. I want to heal but I am not sure how to. I meet this wonderful man tht treats me better than anyone ever has, but I am afraid tht I have no idea what it takes to have a healthy relationship and I don't want my quiks from my ex to get in the way.