It's Official

It's official the Restraining Order is no longer in effect. I can see my children when ever I want, I can walk down any street and don't have to fear what if my ex starts walking towards me how do I hide. I can talk to my old neighbors and friends. I can even go visit them in their homes. YEAH! Now the hard part begins. I must re-make friends with old neighbors, change my driving and shopping habits. I can go to the bank when ever I want. I have to make my children understand he can't have me locked up in jail anymore. They can talk to me, be nice to me, whatever they want. But they are comfortable not having me around. Always thinking of me as the "bad"guy. They are completely brainwashed by the ex, now. So the road is virtually impossible to move on. I will try my best. I will do what ever is needed. But it could be pointless as they are now"adults" and believe he is their only hope and the only one who truly loves them. I supposedly just get angry with them no matter what they do. But dear old dad never says "boo" to them. He just gives them money. I know someday they will realize there is more to living than just money. But will I still be a live to see it let alone know it. I can't bear living the rest of my life alone without them. I can't stand the thought that the day after I am gone, they will suddenly step a way from him. But then because he is all they have left, they will continue to be with him even though they know they should have been with me. I HATE DIVORCE. I NEVER DIVORCED MY CHILDREN. BUT THAT IS WHAT HAPPENED. I NEVER CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND, I NEVER STOLE FROM HIM. I NEVER ANYTHING HIM BUT LOVED HIM. I DON'T WANT TO GO TO HEAVEN BECAUSE I WAS GOOD NO MATTER WHAT. I WANT TO LIVE WITH MY KIDS NOW!!!!!

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Lisalive
Lisalive

Yay! The restraining order is lifted. That\'s step one. Keep taking one step at a time, and for right now, give yourself some time to celebrate that the restraining order is gone. This isn\'t the day to start worrying about what comes next. Today, just celebrate! Yay!
trisha9054
trisha9054

Yes, Lisalive is right. Take the time to celebrate the restraining order being lifted. Take time to reconnect with friends. Get used to the feeling of total freedom and then see what comes next.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am with Lisa and Trisha. Go out and do whatever. I would still stay away from him. I agree that he is brain washing them. And I think he is up to something with that crap of always having the curtains closed and he\'s afraid of you. He is Not! He is just a manipulative person.Go relax with friends and neighbors and let the kids be for a while. He will expect you to come around right now. He knows the restraining order is lifted. I think I would just stay away a little while longer. The kids will come around. Be patient. I know it\'s hard. But try.
macgunderson
macgunderson

Thanks for all your great advice. I will do my best to not have anything to do with him or the kids for at least a few more weeks. But school will be starting soon and I don\'t want to miss seeing them before they go back to school. Other wise it will be next summer before I see or hear from them again. Thanks again for all of your support. Another reason I am happy is the crazy woman lawyer my ex had is no longer his lawyer per the order I just got in the mail yesterday.!! She is older than his mother and really weird. So the games will be over for a while at least. The lawyer is who incited the ex to get the restraining order and it was her that wanted the order to be permanent forever. But thank goodness the judge was good, she(the judge)refused to even consider such a thing. She offered them 1 year take it or leave it. Obviously they took what they could get, but the lawyer complained bitterly and the judge almost through her out of court! So more good news to celebrate. Again I hope all of my friends are doing well and I couldn\'t have made this far without all of your help and support.
deleted_user
deleted_user

07/10/2011 12:10pm
It has to feel good not worrying about that restraining order. Just take it one day at a time with your children. I hope soon they will see for themselves just how wrong their Dad has been all this time. Time I guess thats all we all need.
I know I have also appreciated your help and support always. Together we\'ll all make it thru.