It's gonna be what it's gonna be
I hit the motherload today. The stuff hit the pavement.
I unfriended a woman who I truly adore (on facebook) months ago because he told me she was trying to get into his pants. That was a lie.
The more I thought about that the more I wondered if that was true. She has been an amazing friend to me and why would he say that to me? She is a brilliant woman.
She was straight up honest with me that they talk often and they had a moment, not sure what that means. Her email has blown my mind. She admitted they have flirted since our breakup but she does flirt with all the band guys.
I want her friendship back, but with no ties to him. She is truly one of the most amazing women I know.
I told her I don't care if they slept together, and I truly don't. Her loss. :)
Here is the BS. When my ex left me in August there was a woman pursuing him, and she still is. Whatever. And I brought it up and he said, well she is as huge as NJ (like 200 pounds) and that was all a lie. He would do NJ and RC is not as big as that.
I am married to an idiot. And a liar.
I unfriended a woman who I truly adore (on facebook) months ago because he told me she was trying to get into his pants. That was a lie.
The more I thought about that the more I wondered if that was true. She has been an amazing friend to me and why would he say that to me? She is a brilliant woman.
She was straight up honest with me that they talk often and they had a moment, not sure what that means. Her email has blown my mind. She admitted they have flirted since our breakup but she does flirt with all the band guys.
I want her friendship back, but with no ties to him. She is truly one of the most amazing women I know.
I told her I don't care if they slept together, and I truly don't. Her loss. :)
Here is the BS. When my ex left me in August there was a woman pursuing him, and she still is. Whatever. And I brought it up and he said, well she is as huge as NJ (like 200 pounds) and that was all a lie. He would do NJ and RC is not as big as that.
I am married to an idiot. And a liar.
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I\'m worried if you refriend her, there are too many ties to your stbx and you\'ll continue running into his crap. Sounds like you\'re married to a wanna be Casanova and a liar. Who needs that? I would find it hard to trust anyone that has that kind of friendship with your stbx. Just saying!!!! hugs to you.
Thanks yougo. She can have him if she wants and I told her so. I am not refriending.
She and I are talking and more proof that he is crap. Not saying I will refriend her but I do trust her on some levels, She told me she wanted him and that was just a game and she is sorry and yadda yadda. She has no idea the depth of his lies and it is not my job to tell her, even if they are besties. I told her I no longer care if she screws him. He told me so many lies about her, that are so bad that would hurt her so badly.
SCREW HIM IN THE NECK.
You will come to find that during this process of healing you will lose and gain friends. I believe that this is one you should lose. Their is a boundary that friends do not cross when it comes husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. She crossed that. If you continue to be her friend, you will always have doubt in the back of your mind. Free yourself from that.
I agree with above. Even though it was based on a lie, it\'s best if you don\'t refriend her. I agree she crossed a boundary. I don\'t think she should even be talking to you about him at all. You should not have to hear about him. If you\'re friends, you\'ll always have to have your guard up that she\'ll bring up the subject of him.
Thank you ladies. I slept on it all and I am done with her.