It's detrimental.

I have been listening to webinars and watching online interviews by life coaches. And in more than three of them, the speaker stated that women have a tendency to withdraw from family and friends when they are struggling with different issues such as self-esteem, unlucky in love, protecting themselves from being hurt by people again, etc. because we fear being judged and/or feeling weak. (In addition, they all said that there is a lot of power in being vulnerable.) I must admit I can relate and have been having a hard time today with feeling broken, unloveable and like a failure in life. And while listening to these female coaches speak of their experiences, I felt like they were looking into the window of my life. Therefore, I could not fight the tears anymore nor take suffering alone. So I texted a woman in my community whom helped me with food, told her that I was struggling and to pray for me. And the interesting thing is that I felt free and better that I reached out regardless of whether she judged me or not. I am proud of myself for taking a risk and giving myself the right to say that "I am not okay". Sigh. I don't know what is in the future for me but I do know that I have to try to advocate for myself in getting the help I need.

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yvonnechaondahl
yvonnechaondahl

What a beautiful lady you are! you are so brave. I am afraid if I reach out I will be hurt again. I am in my shell and don\'t want to come out. You are not a failure and you are so loved. This site has help me in many ways. Please keep in touch as I am here for you and in the same boat. Many hugs sent your way
jaylady
jaylady

I understand. I know that once we get the right therapy and start the healing process eventually we will be able to have trusting relationships.
mamoth
mamoth

This beutifull. This is a hard one for me Iv been rejecting so many times or when someone did help they glued a guilt trip with it really drilled me into the ground made me feel unworthy and like such a burden.
mamoth
mamoth

Recently my therapy center told me how much they want to help. They know im applying for disability and have three kids and am trying to come up w money for surgery and so offered me rides to therapy And now sent me a Bill for those rides 585.00 I felt so crushed with a feeling no one really loves me there just doing there job.
mamoth
mamoth

Sorry Amber I should have just sent that in a personal message. I don\'t mean to drag your post down just got me thinking. Well best of luck to you. Sending positive wishes things go much better for you.
mamoth
mamoth

Auto correct on here. Didn\'t mean to type amber