It's done

I am finally done with this.  It is going to hurt like no other, but I am not going to live the lie anymore.  Even after she insists she is not contacting him, I see phone records that tell me she is lying.  I am going to demand to see her phone tomorrow, and if she refuses I am telling her it's over.  I am tired of the lies, the hiding, the feeling like I am the one who did something wrong.  I've poured my heart and soul out, and she has no passion or intimacy for me at all.  She wont touch me, hold me, talk to me, tell me she loves me or misses me unless I do it first.  No talk of how she feels or wants to be with me.  Maybe is she comes clean I will be willing to try, but I doubt that will happen. I have stood by her side through everything bad that has happened to her, and this is how I'm repaid.  Not to mention that she is going to tear apart our family and pull the kids away from the only school and friends they have ever known.  I feel sick to my stomach but I cannot live like this anymore.  I have messaged the OM's wife and will be telling her too.  I'm done!!