It just doesnt get easier
The ups and downs are hard. One day im better the next im down in the dumps. Its making things really hard at work.
I will never understand how she could do this to our family. I know in her mind she has justified it all and placed all the blame on me. What really pisses me off is she has gathered allies in her thinking and rewrote history to explain her actions. I cant do anything about it and it has really upset me.
I have to find a way to keep my mind off of this. Packing her stuff has really helped but that will end and there will come a day when I will be alone in the house and I'm dreading that moment.
It hurts to think she is in someone else's arms and happy. How can she disregard her family so easily? She has not spoken to her oldest son in a long time now. I would be begging for forgiveness.
Ok time for positive time!
My new dryer came Sunday so I don't have to take off this week and meet the guy.
Only a week till thanksgiving and I will take 4 days off.
That's all I got I guess
I will never understand how she could do this to our family. I know in her mind she has justified it all and placed all the blame on me. What really pisses me off is she has gathered allies in her thinking and rewrote history to explain her actions. I cant do anything about it and it has really upset me.
I have to find a way to keep my mind off of this. Packing her stuff has really helped but that will end and there will come a day when I will be alone in the house and I'm dreading that moment.
It hurts to think she is in someone else's arms and happy. How can she disregard her family so easily? She has not spoken to her oldest son in a long time now. I would be begging for forgiveness.
Ok time for positive time!
My new dryer came Sunday so I don't have to take off this week and meet the guy.
Only a week till thanksgiving and I will take 4 days off.
That's all I got I guess
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It is hard when the ex rewrites history to their benefit, it\'s frustrating and not fair. I always tell myself I was there I know what happened. The truth is the truth people cannot change the truth no matter what they do you know it and it is a fact.
This relationship she is with is her problem now , her confidence is her knowing or thinking that she still has you in some ways. Let her live her own life and learn her lessons. New relationships are exciting but that fades. There will be a point where she will have to work on it and we know she can\'t do that , she got a whole lot of problems heading her way and it isn\'t your problem anymore. It was her own choice.
You will have good and bad days , I have them too . But it passes. Some things there are no answers to like why did she do it , when I was asking that all the time of my ex I then told myself it doesn\'t even matter why , the fact is they made a choice and that is a fact. There are consequences for choices. She will need to face hers one day. Right now I am sure this person is a distraction from her guilt , he choice . I\'m guessing soon she will be needy and this guy won\'t want her . But it doesn\'t matter because you will move on. You and your kids are family now and she is an outsider, she is making herself that.
Happy about your new dryer , little blessings :).
I not know she was able to fake the last 18 years with me. I would not be surprised if she got remarried. My son is becoming bitter when he talks about her. I hate to see it but it\'s her fault. My youngest is upst I took his bed apart but she gets it so let her explain why. I hate her in so many ways and its eating me up. I have to let go
Everything may not be roses for your ex, it\'s like the Facebook deal, they only show the good things in their life, no way are they going to post anything negative, whether to cover their guilt or afraid people will say I told you so. The grass ain\'t greener on the other side no matter what they think or say to justify their choices. You need to try and let go of worrying or thinking about what she is telling people. Easier said than done, I know. After my ex left I just wanted to go see everyone to tell my side of things but I didn\'t. The truth will come out with time and they will pull the same thing with their new love interests that they pulled with us.
Just concentrate on your life and your kids, that you CAN do something about. I know it\'s hard and is a day to day battle of emotions but just know that the intense feelings and emotions do lessen with time. Hang in there! Hugs.
Thanks a lot. I never thought I would think about her like I do now. She truly is a different person. All her stuff is n the garage. She is gonna be pissed she did not get to pillage the house. I went by the divorce agreement and to hell with her if she didn\'t get something she wanted.