Interesting dream
I woke up in the middle of the night last night and realized that I had just woken up for the first time in I can't remember how long ... from a dream that actually was not a nightmare. The ex was somewhere around, but I was in a room with a group of people (ex was not in the room, just "somewhere"). All of a sudden, I realized I had a new husband. He realized I had been through a rough time and was not trying to push himself or anything "onto" me. Normally, I don't know if I would like that, but I appreciated it and went to sit with him and was demonstrating my affection with physical gestures such as hand holding.
I like dreams and used to keep a dream diary. I have no idea where this one came from ... but I am glad to have FINALLY woken up and not from a nightmare ... it has been a very long time. Most days I would wake up exhausted; my daughter had heard me tossing and turning and talking in my sleep (and I have observed that with her) and finally, I'd realized I wasn't getting much restful and restorative sleep. I'd been bearing with it patiently for some time. From my dream journal in past, I found that there was a lot of repetition of symbols. I often dreamed of tornados, for example and going back to my childhood home to try to find something or having the feeling something had been left behind.
I find it useful, because in waking life, "coping" sometimes requires the use of some deceptions (although that might be better termed projection or suppression; various defense mechanisms) and though the strategy might be conscious and somewhat healthy, I think it also prevents the mind from using all information it might constructively.
So I am sort of interested in this dream, due to the symbolism and the sorts of messages I got from it. It certainly wasn't anyone I recognize from "real life" and I haven't had the luxury or desire to even think of a new relationship.
I know since he filed for divorce, I would often dream of him and often, it involved maleovalent intentions toward me. Several years ago, I learned that he held grudges for well over a decade about some argument we'd had that I certainly couldn't remember (and not that he would ever tell me specifically, the details). These grudges would be resurrected and used as justification whenever he went on a "punishment" rampage. I remember him telling me once, in reference to things that resulted from his actions: "I'm sorry that happened to you." Never any actual personal accountability for those actions, however. I think that was the major difference in this dream: the man representing husband did not have to be fended off or "have it explained". He was sensitive or perceptive enough to "know" and caring enough; he had empathy ... and what is that saying? "True love waits" ... and a whole lot more.
I like dreams and used to keep a dream diary. I have no idea where this one came from ... but I am glad to have FINALLY woken up and not from a nightmare ... it has been a very long time. Most days I would wake up exhausted; my daughter had heard me tossing and turning and talking in my sleep (and I have observed that with her) and finally, I'd realized I wasn't getting much restful and restorative sleep. I'd been bearing with it patiently for some time. From my dream journal in past, I found that there was a lot of repetition of symbols. I often dreamed of tornados, for example and going back to my childhood home to try to find something or having the feeling something had been left behind.
I find it useful, because in waking life, "coping" sometimes requires the use of some deceptions (although that might be better termed projection or suppression; various defense mechanisms) and though the strategy might be conscious and somewhat healthy, I think it also prevents the mind from using all information it might constructively.
So I am sort of interested in this dream, due to the symbolism and the sorts of messages I got from it. It certainly wasn't anyone I recognize from "real life" and I haven't had the luxury or desire to even think of a new relationship.
I know since he filed for divorce, I would often dream of him and often, it involved maleovalent intentions toward me. Several years ago, I learned that he held grudges for well over a decade about some argument we'd had that I certainly couldn't remember (and not that he would ever tell me specifically, the details). These grudges would be resurrected and used as justification whenever he went on a "punishment" rampage. I remember him telling me once, in reference to things that resulted from his actions: "I'm sorry that happened to you." Never any actual personal accountability for those actions, however. I think that was the major difference in this dream: the man representing husband did not have to be fended off or "have it explained". He was sensitive or perceptive enough to "know" and caring enough; he had empathy ... and what is that saying? "True love waits" ... and a whole lot more.
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That is an interesting dream. And a fantastic one as it was not a nightmare this time. Maybe you are starting to come out of the trauma you are in. Nightmares and trauma seem to go together. You are in Califonia so maybe a fresh start in a short time when you are feeling less tired. Thus the man who understood you. You are still living in the USA, but in California as oppossed to where you were before and away from the scene of divorce courts etcetra. The EX also lives in the USA. though not in Califonia. He iss elsewhere in the USA, the \"somewhere\" in your dream. It is as if you are at a point between your past and your future with more hope for the future now that the past is no longer the past and you are elsewhere in the USA away from all that could have triggerred you in the present moment. I like that dream even more now! Have another one tonight. :)
A good dream beats a bad one any day! Hugs.
What a beautiful dream, full of hope and someone with actual empathy towards you. I hope someone wonderful does come into your life. Someone who will appreciate you, love you, and respect you. I think this might be revealing a turning point for you, Dawn. Maybe it\'s \"time\" that things are going to start going in your favor. Oh I hope so, my friend. You deserve nothing but the best!