index card exercise
It isn't safe to do this anywhere that he could feasibly find them--so this will have to suffice for my index card exercise, or a similar version anyway:-)
One thing I would see as abusive in another relationship:
Giving the silent treatment when she doesn't conform in some way, to his version of reality.
Incidents:
Too many to actually count. One that sticks out in my head was when my son (16 at the time) had just had hand surgery. He passed out on his bedroom floor at 8pm with his lights on and his door locked (he kept it locked so no one could come in at will--which I thought was his right as a teenager, I went through his room when he wasn't home to make sure there were no drugs or weapons, when he was in there I thought he deserved privacy--HUGE DISAGREEMENT in our house). "He" was in a crappy mood for some reason and got up, realized the light was still on and my son had locked his door again, broke down the door and started screaming at my son about disrespect. My son, who was still "out of it" from the anesthesia said something rude about him coming in his damn room like that and he began to jump up in my son's face like he was going to punch him. I got in the middle of them and was pushing him to get him to stop; he proceeded to kick my son out in a sleet/snow storm. My sister had to leave her house and pick us all up. Because I left with them, I was in the wrong. We stayed gone for a week until I couldn't take it in my sister's any longer (she lived in a one bedroom apartment with her husband, my nephew, and now me and my three kids were there). We went back--my son refused and I didn't make him (God how I failed my kids--it breaks my heart!) I got the silent treatment and had to kiss ass for a week before he finally finished "punishing" me for daring to go against him when my son was in the wrong for speaking back at him like that.
Actually, this incident belongs on so many other cards also! It sucked on so many levels!!!
One thing I would see as abusive in another relationship:
Giving the silent treatment when she doesn't conform in some way, to his version of reality.
Incidents:
Too many to actually count. One that sticks out in my head was when my son (16 at the time) had just had hand surgery. He passed out on his bedroom floor at 8pm with his lights on and his door locked (he kept it locked so no one could come in at will--which I thought was his right as a teenager, I went through his room when he wasn't home to make sure there were no drugs or weapons, when he was in there I thought he deserved privacy--HUGE DISAGREEMENT in our house). "He" was in a crappy mood for some reason and got up, realized the light was still on and my son had locked his door again, broke down the door and started screaming at my son about disrespect. My son, who was still "out of it" from the anesthesia said something rude about him coming in his damn room like that and he began to jump up in my son's face like he was going to punch him. I got in the middle of them and was pushing him to get him to stop; he proceeded to kick my son out in a sleet/snow storm. My sister had to leave her house and pick us all up. Because I left with them, I was in the wrong. We stayed gone for a week until I couldn't take it in my sister's any longer (she lived in a one bedroom apartment with her husband, my nephew, and now me and my three kids were there). We went back--my son refused and I didn't make him (God how I failed my kids--it breaks my heart!) I got the silent treatment and had to kiss ass for a week before he finally finished "punishing" me for daring to go against him when my son was in the wrong for speaking back at him like that.
Actually, this incident belongs on so many other cards also! It sucked on so many levels!!!
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