Incarcerated, pending case of spouse

He's been gone a week but it feels like forever. I miss him. I guess I should start at the beginning so you'll know what I'm talking about. My best friend/Lover and I met back when I was 16 and he was 18. We dated for about a year and then lost touch. It was devastating when I couldn't find him but there wasn't much I could do. I was going through my own struggles.. I met my children's father and he connected with his children's mother. 12 Years later we found each other again. He has 3 kids and I have 3 kids. We are both separated from our relationships with our children's mother/father. We have been friends/lovers for the past three years. Attached at the hip. He moved in with me and things were so nice. We enjoyed our time together. We've both had our brushings with the law but on a minimal basis. Mostly misdemeanors. His kids' mother is bent on hurting him. This time she's doing just that. He went to her place of residence after dropping his son off for school one morning. They had an argument. She called the police on him and he's facing burglary charges, sexual assault charges, driving under suspension charges, and an interference and violation of probation charges. Most of this is misdemeanor. He had no intent on burglarizing her. Its bogus. He didn't even have a weapon on him. He was only trying to talk to her about his kids. I don't know that I can help him or what I can do. Its not looking good and he does have a record. I'm lost without him. I cry every day all the time. I try not to let my kids see but they miss him too. I can't visit him until he sends me an application for visitation. I don't know what to do. I don't make a lot of money so I can't help him in the way that he needs me to. I've tried to find another job or an at home job but everything wants you to pay a processing fee or whatever. I'm also in college and because of all my emotions I'm falling behind. My life struggles are many and vast. I can't get it together. I don't know what to do for him or for me. If you are reading this, Please help me. If you have suggestions, I'll do anything to help him out of this. If anyone just wants to talk to me... I'm looking for friends and others going through the same thing that will understand. I have no supporters. No one to talk to. Everyone is against me and wants me to just let things be. I can't sit by and allow that. I care for him too much to leave him in his darkest hour. Especially when I can't let go. I have to fight to help him in any way that I can.