In a bad place
I feel like I am in a really bad place in my life right now.I dont know why and I cant really explain it.I just dont feel the same..Physically I feel fine.Its a mental/emotional thing..I know I am stressed with the new baby and the new house,etc..And I do know that I dont handle stress very well..When I am at work I am fine.When I go home its a different story..I feel like I have too much to do,like the whole world is caving in on me.I feel unwanted by my husband.It feels like we have grown so far apart.And that saddens me.The worst part is he is not the kind of man that you can open up and talk to.In his words,he is simple..WTF???..I feel like such a bitch lately.I am always angry or cold towards him.Not because I am really mad but because I am hurt..Is it me?Did I do something wrong?Does he not love me?Is he not attracted to me?This is taking over my life and I am making thing worse.I dont know what else to do.
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Oh honey, so sorry to hear how you are feeling. Hoping things get better. Maybe you should go see a counselor with him. Thinking of you and sending you hugs. Take care
personally Tray you just giving birth will put you in many different emotions and feelings and your husband is the one who needs to step up and show some compassion he didn\'t do anything but insert his dick your the one who carried it for 9 months,it does sound to me like there is a distance between you the answer to did you do anything wrong no you brought this mans baby into the world he isn\'t helping by being cold and if you can\'t talk to him and he doesn\'t open up there spells out marriage disaster no communication and not having the ability to open up and talk things out will most definitely ruin any relationship,I would suggest seeing a professional for awhile to help you sort out all these feelings and emotions and it will also allow you to tell the therapist everything that he is making you feel and not feel,you shouldn\'t stay with a person who makes you feel the things you stated here in your journal it sounds like it has to do with more then just having the baby and T it takes 2 to make or break a relationship and at this point I think your doing your part and he is just a shut down person and in that case you can\'t get the answers you need out of him give him an ultimatum counseling together or you will leave that may smarten him up I don\'t know just trying to help you T,Kim
Hey Tray- You are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that things improve for you. You need to be able to talk to him. Communication is so important to having a successful relationship. My suggestion is for you to start counseling. Maybe a counselor can help you come up with some ways to help you be able to deal with what is happening and then bring your husband in on it as well. Obviously he needs to step up to the plate and help. Sending you hugs and lots of positive thoughts.
im so sorry you r feeling this way, I know I have been there alot if you need to talk I am here, my thoughts r with you
thanks for all your comments..It means alot to me.
I know what you mean. Been there done that. Actually kinda there right now, with feeling crappy and down alot. I would recommend like others have, going to a counselor. But you also know I\'m always here to listen if you need it hon!
HEY THERE YOUR PLATE IS SO FULL RIGHT NOW.IF HUBBY WONT OPEN UP IT JUST ADDS TO TO YOUR EMOTIONAL UNREST.DONT BE TO HARD ON YOURSELF.YOU KNOW ME LAY IT AT JESUS\' FEET.COUNCILING IS A GOOD OPTION EVEN IF HUBBY DOESNT GO. THE THINGS YOU ARE FEELING AT HOME I WOULD SAY ARE NORMAL ALL THINGS CONSIDERED.ILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU AND IM ALWAYS HERE FOR YA
GOD BLES MY FRIEND