That might be a question you need to ask yourself. I think we define ourselves by the way we live our lives..... I think we define ourselves by the love we extend to others.... I think we define ourselves by the way we look upon ourselves.
I remember when I was in my late teens and early 20's, I had an identity problem and I thought the answer to that, was in finding the right girl to tell me how much she appreciated me but in reality, I was smothering to her and I did the same to many women after her, so it was difficult for me to keep a relationship.
It was many years later that I learned the key to happiness was in loving myself first....That makes it much easier to love another because I am not constantly looking for others outside of me, to provide the Love I am lacking in myself.... I think life is all about learning and evolving and letting go of the old and what does not work for us and bringing in the new.. Sometimes it's hard to let go but only because we tend to fear the future and we are afraid of the things we don't know., so it takes a leap of faith to jump into a future we don't know.... weather it be a new relationship, or a new job, or a new home....
I don't know if I have helped you but I hope you can find some peace.
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That might be a question you need to ask yourself. I think we define ourselves by the way we live our lives..... I think we define ourselves by the love we extend to others.... I think we define ourselves by the way we look upon ourselves.
I remember when I was in my late teens and early 20's, I had an identity problem and I thought the answer to that, was in finding the right girl to tell me how much she appreciated me but in reality, I was smothering to her and I did the same to many women after her, so it was difficult for me to keep a relationship.
It was many years later that I learned the key to happiness was in loving myself first....That makes it much easier to love another because I am not constantly looking for others outside of me, to provide the Love I am lacking in myself.... I think life is all about learning and evolving and letting go of the old and what does not work for us and bringing in the new.. Sometimes it's hard to let go but only because we tend to fear the future and we are afraid of the things we don't know., so it takes a leap of faith to jump into a future we don't know.... weather it be a new relationship, or a new job, or a new home....
I don't know if I have helped you but I hope you can find some peace.
God Bless