If wishes were horses .......

....... beggars would ride.  How I wish I could work with the police to find out what my son is doing and the dealers who supply the "stuff".  I have phone #'s.  I have some pills.  If my son were a minor ~ I'd be right up there.  Unfortunately, the system makes it difficult for anyone to go to them for help and vice versa.  I helped the police in a number of ways when my son was using as an adolescent.  Now that he's an "adult" everything is punitive.  I'm not saying that consequences of drug use should be ignored but these consequences continue for a lifetime.  What if a person "narcs" on another (motivation to get them help) not knowing for sure whether they may get sober on their own?  My mother-in-law and brother-in-law did.  They never had any legal issues nor did they go to AA.  If I knew more about what my son was involved in (like I did when he was an adult) it would a bit easier.  He appears to be "managing" so right now I guess I must just wait and see because so far my predictions haven't materialized so that's reason enough.
I was so tempted last night to talk to our local drug task force guy.  He was on our panel for our demonstration last fall.  I saw him at another event and I was so close. Decided it wasn't such a good idea.  I just feel powerless and need to address this drug thing to my son.  Haven't brought it up in awhile.  Husband pretends it doesn't exist.  I've been doing that too out of survival.  Husband thinks since he's doing "better" that we must focus on the positive.  Positive is fine - I can do that but - it keeps coming back to me that we need to set some boundaries - rules - something!  
 
 
 

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My computer is acting up--sorry for the empty comment box! Boy what you are talking about is shades of me one year ago, when B was living here. He was unable to attend Thks dinner because I had discovered syringes in his room that day and we had a big blow-up. (I guess that is what one does when one finds out info they would rather not find!--I felt I had no alternative)
Wanted to tell you you can Google \'pill identification\' and there are several sites that can guide you. I found out B had a stash of antidepressants that way (odd, but pill freaks want it all, I guess).
I know it\'s hard when he lives with you; I have been there. It feels like a violation of everything you stand for, and it\'s sickening. You have my support and good wishes.