If talking to others tires you out...

THREE CHEAP TRICKS TO TALKING TO PEOPLETalking to people can be tiring.  It's called "emotional labor" by experts, and as a former salesman I promise you, talking for 8 hours a day can be as bad as 8 hours of unloading trucks.If you have depression, anxiety, PTSD, dealing with people is even harder.  So I want to give everyone 3 tricks I learned working in sales that takes all the work off your shoulders in conversation.  One is called ACTIVE LISTENING, if you google it there are a million words on the subject.  It mirrors back what the other person says, they feel important, you can do it on autopilot.There are also what get called the FOUR MAGIC QUESTIONS that can be used to reply to anything anyone ever says, to buy you time.Trickier are the 12 stock questions called CLEAN LANGUAGE, since they are questions with all the bias taken out, so people don't feel criticized.  I was taught to use them to figure out what customers REALLY wanted to buy, how they really thought of our product line up and so on.  Using the same "clean language" you can get a total stranger to tell you their whole life in one conversation.  And it takes ZERO EMOTIONAL LABOR.So if socializing is a total chore, talking to people leaves you tired, and you want to go hide in your bed rather than face the world, try this.  It's a skill that takes practice, but trust me, I'm a salesman.(Free tip, usually when a salesman says "trust me," you should run like hell.  But THIS time, I'm trying to help.)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0eHxNdIyo7ghttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5RknemM8Hwhttp://www.xraylistening.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/SevenPracticalWays.pdf