ICU visit with my Ex Wife
Today, I visited with my ex wife in the ICU of the Hospital, where she has been since 6/18/2010.
I went in with my daughter and my son. She took me by the hand and we just basically talked about family. She wrote on her note pad and asked how my twin brother and his wife were, she asked about my youngest daughter and her family, and my youngest son. She wanted to know how they were. My daughter asked her if she wanted me to have prayer with here and she said wait.
I asked her if she was being kept as pain free as possible and she shook her head yes. I asked her if she was resting at night and she shook her head yes. I told her I was getting ready for Bible school at my church and she tried to smile. My daughter told her that I knew she had accepted Christ as her Saviour and she got tears in her eyes and shook her head yes. I told her that I had prayed for that a long, long time and she shook her head yes, again. We carried on a little while and I saw she was getting a bit tired so, I asked her if she was ready to Pray. She shook her head yes.
This is what I said to her "Joyce, I am sorry for everything and anything I have ever done to hurt you. We were married young and we made a lot of mistakes." I said "I am sorry that this has happened and I want you to know that I have never bad mouthed you, never criticized you, never tried to cause you any problems, I just stayed out of your way and remained in the shadows all these years." Then, I broke down and cried. She took my hand and my daughter's hand and I began to pray. I asked God to give her peace in her heart and in her soul. I asked that He give strength to her in the days that lie ahead and for strength for our son and daughter. I said, "God, you remember us as a young couple over 50 years ago", when we were young, foolish, and unaware of the reality of the hard times in life". I also prayed that "whatever happens and when, we would see her again in Heaven some day". I asked God to be with Joyce and that I knew there were Angels standing all around her bed, even though we couldn't see them. I ask Jesus, The Great Physician to heal the hearts of those who are hurting and, for a healing of hearts in the families involved.
When I finished praying, she had tears, my daughter had tears and, tears were running down my face. I looked at her and said "This time has been needed for a long long time. This is a time of healing for me" My daughter wiped the tears from her mom's cheek and said , "These are tears of joy, aren't they mom"? She shook her head yes and Joyce reached up and took my hand, in both her hands and mouthed the words "Thank You". I told her "don't worry, no matter what happens or when, I will be there for our kids, Brad and Sherry.
I walked out of that ICU room so broken and yet, so blessed to have the opportunity to say what I said and, to be able to pray with Joyce for the first time, in almost 50 years.
God is so Wonderful and Gracious. Today was a time, when God took something tragic and made it a time of triumph. I thank Jesus, my Saviour, for this time today. His mercy and love is beyond words for me.
I went in with my daughter and my son. She took me by the hand and we just basically talked about family. She wrote on her note pad and asked how my twin brother and his wife were, she asked about my youngest daughter and her family, and my youngest son. She wanted to know how they were. My daughter asked her if she wanted me to have prayer with here and she said wait.
I asked her if she was being kept as pain free as possible and she shook her head yes. I asked her if she was resting at night and she shook her head yes. I told her I was getting ready for Bible school at my church and she tried to smile. My daughter told her that I knew she had accepted Christ as her Saviour and she got tears in her eyes and shook her head yes. I told her that I had prayed for that a long, long time and she shook her head yes, again. We carried on a little while and I saw she was getting a bit tired so, I asked her if she was ready to Pray. She shook her head yes.
This is what I said to her "Joyce, I am sorry for everything and anything I have ever done to hurt you. We were married young and we made a lot of mistakes." I said "I am sorry that this has happened and I want you to know that I have never bad mouthed you, never criticized you, never tried to cause you any problems, I just stayed out of your way and remained in the shadows all these years." Then, I broke down and cried. She took my hand and my daughter's hand and I began to pray. I asked God to give her peace in her heart and in her soul. I asked that He give strength to her in the days that lie ahead and for strength for our son and daughter. I said, "God, you remember us as a young couple over 50 years ago", when we were young, foolish, and unaware of the reality of the hard times in life". I also prayed that "whatever happens and when, we would see her again in Heaven some day". I asked God to be with Joyce and that I knew there were Angels standing all around her bed, even though we couldn't see them. I ask Jesus, The Great Physician to heal the hearts of those who are hurting and, for a healing of hearts in the families involved.
When I finished praying, she had tears, my daughter had tears and, tears were running down my face. I looked at her and said "This time has been needed for a long long time. This is a time of healing for me" My daughter wiped the tears from her mom's cheek and said , "These are tears of joy, aren't they mom"? She shook her head yes and Joyce reached up and took my hand, in both her hands and mouthed the words "Thank You". I told her "don't worry, no matter what happens or when, I will be there for our kids, Brad and Sherry.
I walked out of that ICU room so broken and yet, so blessed to have the opportunity to say what I said and, to be able to pray with Joyce for the first time, in almost 50 years.
God is so Wonderful and Gracious. Today was a time, when God took something tragic and made it a time of triumph. I thank Jesus, my Saviour, for this time today. His mercy and love is beyond words for me.
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HOW AWESOME!! I am glad for you both and your children that this took place. It is said that God allows things to happen for a reason.....I can\'t help but think that the reason for this illness was for Joyce to be saved and for the healing of forgiveness to take place....everything in His time. God bless....In Christ...dale, brandon\'s mom
It is good when two people can reconcile their differences and have peace in the heart once again. Our God is an Awesome God and I am sure he had something to do with you and your ex wife being able to make these amends to one another. I\'m very glad for you. Truly your friend, BarbaraWawa
perfect! :) all went as God wanted it to go today and that is the best it could be for all!
I am glad that you were able to do this. Healing is so important. Blessings to you.
Lynne
reading this just brought tears to my eyes OB! I\'m so glad you shared this with us, and will keep your family (all parts of it) in my prayers.
Im glad you were able to make amends in person biker.
YOUR mercy & love is just as beyond words for me. That is a truly beautiful moment, thank-you for sharing it & inspiring us all.
I know that this was healing for you and I thank God that she found him in time and you were finally able to share that with her and your daughter.... Bless you and your family... you are all in my prayers!
This is so beautiful i felt like i was right there with ya\'ll (((hug)))
An open willing heart, will find peace when the opportunity comes around.
Hugs.
This was so touching!! God truly does have a way of making things work out in the end. I\'m so glad you were able to have this time to make peace with the ex. And so wonderful she has accepted God as her savior before her time is up.
OMG, the tears are just streaming down my face.
I\'m so glad you both were able to find peace and forgiveness. Thanks for sharing this with us.
I CAN\'T TELL YOU ENOUGH HOW HAPPY I AM THAT YOU WENT TO SEE HER. THIS WAS SO HEALING SO BEAUTIFUL FOR ALL OF YOU. THANK YOU JESUS!!!
Pee Wee....... I am bawling....... I can\'t even write anything... I know this was hard.......... I know that ... I know that you will have some peace now seeing Joyce, even though it was so hard.............. I am so glad you got to see her........... I am so glad.
xx
Gaye
That is just wonderful , praise God