IA little of my life .

I started in my country. I met this guy in the airforces, we got married and come every Friday drunk and physically abuse me, after 8  years. I divorced him 2 years after he came back saying he changed. I believe him, we did have a kid . Now he started to use mental abuse, I decided to stay with him because I was afraid not to be able to care for my child many people don't understand why a woman stays with an abusive partner I don't have an education show many women falling under the trap of the government they give you help with stamps for food but you can't save money or they stop how much help the given you based on how much you making which is not much, I learned to control the situation by not provoking him and ignored him as much as possible. I did report him to his supervisor which he told him if I complain again he will lose his rank and pension. I don't what that for him because I know how much he works for his county, the good news was he stop the abuse thanks to the talk with his supervisor he stays with the Air Force for 20 years when he retires he got his pension and it was honorable discharge. Then started again the mental abuse because he was not afraid of loosing anything so after 32 years of cooping with this, I ask him for divorce while I was doing the papers I found out he was cheating with another woman for 10 years. Anyway, I was happy because my son was married by the time and have my first grandson I got  1/2 of his pension did start to work after 11 years with this company I retire from them and now I work part-time in another company. I did buy my first home in my name only

So I am doing ok thanks to God

P.S I don't recommend staying with an abuser , every situation is different.