I screwed up
Paid our middle son's court fees. Husband's upset because I don't want to pay our youngest son's court fees. I messed up. I know that middle son can pay us back because he has a job so I rationalized it. My sister also asked to borrow a large sum of money to help them from foreclosing on their house and I am willing.
Double standard. I know. I also know that my middle son's latest incident (girlfriend breakup) has put him into a state of depression - bringing back horrible memories of when he was in high school. Girlfriend breaks up - depression. Revisiting the past. Almost a PTSD with me.
Husband and I had a fight - raising our voices at each other. T-Man won again.
Double standard. I know. I also know that my middle son's latest incident (girlfriend breakup) has put him into a state of depression - bringing back horrible memories of when he was in high school. Girlfriend breaks up - depression. Revisiting the past. Almost a PTSD with me.
Husband and I had a fight - raising our voices at each other. T-Man won again.
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oh yeah, when the parents fight over the DA kid, the kid wins. life in America, huh.
Be aware--my husb. and I both have had episodes of pTSD since this has gone on so long. That is another way you can get it--from shock or traumas occurring over time. For me, crawling out of the \'flung into my chair\" attitude and getting moving again really helps. NOt instantly, but again over time. And don\'t forget to acknowledge that you\'re in a fragile state when you need to.BTW, each situation is different with each kid, and they are not all owed equally the same thing. The parable of the king\'s sons reminds me of that.
my kid\' MIA for the last couple weeks, after a good spell, so we are getting a bit distracted. We have no idea where to try to look for him since he stays in motels and has no address. Won\'t answer phone or emails. Points to this being another drug binge. So naturally, we go all the way to thinking he\'s dead. So i\'m using a number of coping skills;;whatever feels right.
You are so right about the PTSD type feelings. I\"ve been there. Don\'t beat yourself up too much. Knowing he was upset over the break up would have probably caused me to do the same thing.