i really need advice on this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!
ok i really need advice on this, ok this person used to be a good friend of mine and i got this email from her yesterday and i was really hurt by it and also confused by it at the same time. can you all read this? cuz when i read it, it made me think she didn't want to get together anymore, like just some lame excuse so that she doesn't have to be friends with me anymore.or see me anymore. - thats how it made me feel and like it really sounds like it, like shes not really being honest with me on the real reason. like theres something shes not telling me. HERE IT IS BELOW. PLEASE I NEED ADVICE REALLY BAD CUZ THIS WHOLE THING WITH MY FRIEND IS REALLY HURTING ME. AND FOR THE RECORD AS YOU ARE READING THIS, MY HUSBAND LIKES TO BE BY HIMSELF SOMETIMES AND CUZ OF THAT HE LIKES ME TO GO HANGOUT WITH PEOPLE AND MY HUSBAND SAID THAT HE DOESNT CARE IF I HANGOUT WITH SINGLE GIRLS. AND I TOLD MY FRIEND THIS BEFORE SHE SENT OUT THIS EMAIL!!!!!!!!I'm so sorry it took so long to respond...I got even sicker Saturday & then every night this week I was on the run. I did not think you were mad at me, I'm sorry if I misled you in anyway. I was concerned that you were bored or uncomfortable...especially with our very blunt instructor! :o) I'm glad you did have fun. No apologies needed on the text. We always do have good times together and visits do tend to be few and far between. It is tough having some distance between us and different lives. More visits are great but I have to encourage you to not put a strain on your marriage coming here too often. I'm sure Bill would not be thrilled with you hanging out with single women every weekend! :o) All joking aside...from what you shared with me last weekend, it does sound like there is alot of stress on your relationship right now and through alot of prayer I think it's best if you do not escape those stresses coming here too often. Please know that I am not saying this to be mean or that I don't want to see you...I love you very much and I want you to be happy with Bill and work through these issues so you may have peace. I am always here to listen and pray with you. I wish I could give more advice but I'm a little inexperienced in the marriage department :o)
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yeah i would say she was just making an excuse not to see you, but thats just me.
yeah she was tryign to let you off easy.. she doesn\'t want to be friends.. she saying she doen sorry to say.. sound like she was confused also.. not sure she really knows what she wants..
It\'s really hard for me to say for sure, because I don\'t know what you sent her or told her and what happened when you hung out. How far away is she? It didn\'t sound to me like she was blowing you off - even if you told her it was ok to hang out, it sounds like you also gave her some conflicting info about your marriage before that. She may want to be friends, but also have a little space, and that is ok and is not personal. I have some friends like that too and in fact I am like that a bit - I don\'t want to see someone all the time, I do need time with my hubby and by myself but that does not mean I don\'t love and care for my friends. I would take a look at this from all angles, and my honest opinion is that she does care, but she wants space and you have given her information she is not sure what to do with. Does this help at all?
It sorta seems like she was making excuses.... but in some things she said it seems like she cares about your well being. Maybe you guys won\'t be the best of friends, but maybe you can remain friends on some level. Good Luck with all of this. Love and Hugs xo xo xo