I need advice..

So, there's this boy... This nice, funny, intelligent, VERY attractive boy. Everybody says that he likes me and he flirts with me all the time. And I know I am getting a head of myself here, but if he really does like me and if I really do like him, could it even go anywhere? I'm not sure how I feel about him yet, but is that fear or me just not being interested?
We hang out a lot and I feel like I know him, but he doesn't know anything about me. Not really. He knows the basic stuff. What kind of music I like and stuff like that. But getting to my mental stability... I can't even think about it.
I knew that this might happen someday. I'd find a guy when I go off to college. Nice enough, but I could never let him know me, truly and I'd break it off before it got to that point. But I feel like it just ran up on me. I'm too young, this is too soon, I'm so unprepared. What do I tell him my pills are for? Why I can't drink at parties? What if I snap and hurt him?
So the question is; do I give him a chance, or shut him down for his own good and my fear?

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coolkidrthomas
coolkidrthomas

(just my own advice for consideration) I think slow and steady wins the race :p. Weirdly worded, but I\'ve found that the longer I was with someone-that doesnt necessarily mean dating but friends also- the more comfortable they felt around me, the more I could trust them with. So get to know him really, really, really well. And if he seems shallow, I wouldn\'t bother. It\'s difficult explaining to people about our mentalities and such, but when you find the right one, he won\'t care about that. He\'ll just care about you, and making you happy.
And there\'s nothing wrong with having fleeting romances while looking for the right guy. Just be aware and be safe. And I\'m gonna leave before I start sounding like a mom.
:) hope I helped. kinda some lol.
haemae624
haemae624

That actually did help a lot, thank you(: I think I\'m not going to get ahead of myself here and just see what happens. I\'ve been so worried about cutting the ties quickly so I won\'t get hurt again, but I\'ve got to realize that not everyone is the same. Not everyone is out to hurt me.
And I\'m not looking for anything serious (AT.ALL.), so I think I\'m just going to have fun and see where summer takes me(:
coolkidrthomas
coolkidrthomas

I say go for it :D
deleted_user
deleted_user

I struggle with the same thoughts racing back and forth if i should take somethign farther with an guy when im mainly focusing on myself and goals , and if I should and feel obligated to tell them about myself , but I keep coming up with just have fun , like you said your young and you have plenty of time , I wouldnt excpect enything, but mainly because what i excpect of enything just does the opposite, so go into it fearless you never know what the outcomes can turn into : ) so beast it up this Summer : ) and regret nothing cause thats best way we learn : )

~ash