I'm Still Here and Things are Only Moving UP!!!!!

Oh My Gosh!!!! It's been a month since I have had enough time to come on DS. I hope al of you are moving up and on with LIFE!!!! I have finally begun to feel like i'm actually LIVING AGAIN. I will get to the good stuff soon but here's a little update on the STBX.  He STILL HASN'T SIGNED THE DIVORCE PAPERS!!!! I SIGNED MINE OVER A MONTH AGO. My Lawyer has tried to call him several times, he has left him 50 voice mails, so finally he just sent them to him and they got returned with NO SIGNATURE???? I don't get it he's the one that left, he's the one that had to go find himself, he's the one that was dating a skank named Michelle that had 3 ghetto kids living in a gross gang infested trailor park. So why not sign the Divorce Papers??? Oh she dumped his ass already when he couldn't be her sugar Daddy because he's a Daddy with NO SUGAR!!!! He is also almost $7,000 behind in support and I still don't have the money to take him back to court. Let's see what else oh yah he BANKRUPTED OUR BUSINESS THAT MY PARENTS GAVE HIM THE 25,000 TO START. Now he works for a friend who has a construction business and I believe he is a licensed and bonded contractor so doesn't he have to pay him with a check??? If he tries to pay him under the table to avoid the court ordered support he could lose his contractors license. Anyway hope they get his ssn and start pulling my support.
 
Ok Ok enough about Mr Gloom and Doom here's whats been going on with me. We had our first talent show at school that I put together and have been working with the kids for 3 months now. We Sang and Danced, there was Drama skits, Magic, Mimes, and my son and his friend were the host of the evening. They did " Who's on First" comedy routine, introduced each act before they came on even told jokes and the Parents and Families and Staff LOVED IT. I got BIG PRAISE FROM STAFF, PARENTS, AND THE OWNERS THEMSELVES CAME OUT TO WATCH AND TOLD ME WOW T YOU REALLY DID IT!!!!!! I was so proud of all my students they worked so hard. I only get this week to rest then I have to start working on CHRISTMAS AROUND THE WORLD!!!!! Each grade was given a different country so I have to teach them a traditional song and then a song from their chosen country. I teach Kindergarten and our contry is ITALY!!!!! BUON NATALE!!! THAT'S MERRY CHRISTMAS IN ITALIAN. So I have 6 grades to teach 2 songs to plus my class all before our WINTER BALL ON DEC, 16TH. I CAN DO IT THOUGH.
I have also been taking steps to clean up the absolute mess my ex made with our credit so I can buy a house. I started looking into the rent to own and buying bank owned properties that they are just trying to get rid of. The real estate market out here is a buyers market right now a house that would have cost 200,000 two years ago are practically being given away now for 89,000 because the banks don't want to carry them anymore. I have filled out most of the paper work and i'm almost ready to start looking at houses in a couple weeks. I'm going to use my tax return after Disneyland of course in early March for a dwn payment. That's another good thing with these rent to own and bank owned properties is that the dwn payment can be from 2,500 to 5,000 dwn thats all for a house. I paid that in deposits for this stupid apartment. Anyway keep your fingers crossed for me.
The last thing is it's my BIRTHDAY THIS WED!!!!! At first I was sad to think about spending my birthday without him because for 23 years he always made my birthday's special last year he took me to Disney it was such a great suprise. But my friends have planned something fun for me on Saturday instead since it's the before Thanksgiving and everyone is with their families. I just wantr to make it through this Holiday Season and be TOTALLY DONE WITH THIS YEAR. When I can officially say I HAVE MADE IT THROUGH THE FIRST YEAR AND I'M STILL HERE!!!!!!! 2012 will be my year to SHINE.  I can feel it i'm going to buy my little house for Austin and I and my payments will be $300.00 a month less amonth than I pay now. That can go into savings i'm also trading in my big 8 seater van for a cool sportier smaller car for Austin and I. I am sick of paying $4o.00 bucks a week in gas. Plus we got that van because we were a family of 5 who traveled and went camping and stuff. Part of acceptance is knowing your new reality so why hang on to things you just don't use anymore. Brandon is 24 and on his own, Shelby is almost 20 and has her own car. So it's just Austin and I don't need a big van anymore.
Well it's late I just want to thank all of you who have sent be hugs and concern about my absense I tried to reply when I could. I should have some more time now and I will be on more often. BIG BIG BIG HUGS TO EVERYONE AND I HOPE YOUR JOURNEYS ARE GOING WELL..GOD BLESS AS ALWAYS....MUCH LOVE AND JOY...    T

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trisha9054
trisha9054

It\'s good to hear from you and to know you are doing so well. Even with the difficulty the stbx is causing you still stay upbeat.

Your job is secure and your employers like you. The new house is a great idea for you and austin. Trading vehicles can be fun. My gas bill is over $60.00 a week and sometimes more if I go see my daughter. You are so blessed.

Happy Birthday early in case you aren\'t on here Wednesday. I know you will have wonderful plans for Thanksgiving. You are doing good.
tryn2bhappy
tryn2bhappy

so glad you checked in and such a wonderful journal.. Have a wonderful holiday and Happiest of birthdays.. God bless my friend
new2free
new2free

Oh wow my birthday is the day before yours. Happy Birthday!!! No wonder you are sucha special person!! :-)
It was so good to read such an up beat and positive journal from you. For heavens sake what is your stbx\'s game? How ridiculous!! So sorry. I hope they do manage to garnish his wages and give you what you deserve. What a windfall that will be when you finally get it. You are awesome!!
sadfornow26yahoocom
sadfornow26yahoocom

so glad you are getting your live together, its is definetly a milestone to remember. have a wonderful birthday, there are wonderful days ahead of you , the worst is now behind you, enjoy the rest of your life, you deserve the best and will get it. god bless you on your new journey my dear friend.
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confused92
confused92

So nice to hear from you again. Check into your state you might be able to file a judgement against him for the support without going back to court. In our state it is like a 25 dollar fee, they enter an amount and file contempt charges. Might look into it if you have time. The childs program sounds wonderful, what a rewarding job you have. Have a great birthday, you are doing so well and give me so much hope for the future.
KRKing911
KRKing911

Great to hear you are doing so well!!!
VectorForward
VectorForward

Happy Belated Birthday!

Sounds like everything is coming up roses for you which does not surprise me. You have such a wonderful attitude. Hugs to you and Austin (I have a nephew named Austin) this Thanksgiving Day.
maggieb1958
maggieb1958

OOps. Happy Belated Birthday. I hope you had a great day! :) Maggie
Happy Thanksgiving too!
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary

Hi doll, I can feel the great happy feelings in your journal. Way to go. As for stbx. Just let him be. He does not count anymore. So the grass was not greener at the other side. You have so much going for you and you are flourishing and happy without him. He is green with envy at your happiness. Good keep going my friend