I just can't figure it out!
I don't know if it's just me or everyone and I mean everyone around me that doesn't understand me or need me but these are two separate issues.
The understanding part I can tell you that prior to the brain surgery I had a deep voice and it used to carry, so I would always have to whisper in certain situations. After the surgery the soft toned voice became by normal voice and I am okay with that; however, when I speak with people the first thing they say is, "What." So I say the message again and then I'll hear "I heard you the first time'" so I don't understand. Is it me? Are they not focused when they talk to me? I read who I am talking to as do they need, "Just the facts Ma'am" or complete details, or "talk to me like I am in the second grade." (all movie quotes)
Then I try to do my part in this world even though I am struggling minute by minute I try my best not to let it show to ruin anyone else's moments.I do my share if not more around work, home and in the Army they taught us that if you see garbage on the ground pick it up- Just imagine this is your world, because it is!
So I send out texts or phone calls to get responses and I will hear nothing for days, and when I resend those messages the other side will get pissed off; however, if they send a text to me and I don't respond right away, they still get pissed off.
Where you live do all the streets go one way? Think about it.
I was give 5 tickets to a Green Bay Packer Alumni Vs the Sheriffs Basketball game, happens every year, and I invited my brother and sister-in-law, my son and my Dad. My Dad will do almost everything with other people especially my sister Mary including going to casinos and walking around all night. This is you walk in you sit in seats on the floor for senior citizens and watch the game. He told me today that he know has something to do at two other places and he doesn't want to walk on the steps or sit in the chair, all these excuses. A little insight into my Dad, he sits in his chair at home from 5:30 am until 9ish watching tv unless someone or something mentally drives him out to drink. He is a full-blown alcoholic.
This 2016 new years resolution was supposed to be, I am giving up "I don't understand" because that just ends the situation and it's a win for the other side. My health can't take this anymore.
If I could just sit here and write all day I would and could. It would written and verbal diarrhea. I really want to write my own book of my memoirs. One of the Chapters would be, "My Dooties-not just a play on words."
Pissed off in Kenosha.
The understanding part I can tell you that prior to the brain surgery I had a deep voice and it used to carry, so I would always have to whisper in certain situations. After the surgery the soft toned voice became by normal voice and I am okay with that; however, when I speak with people the first thing they say is, "What." So I say the message again and then I'll hear "I heard you the first time'" so I don't understand. Is it me? Are they not focused when they talk to me? I read who I am talking to as do they need, "Just the facts Ma'am" or complete details, or "talk to me like I am in the second grade." (all movie quotes)
Then I try to do my part in this world even though I am struggling minute by minute I try my best not to let it show to ruin anyone else's moments.I do my share if not more around work, home and in the Army they taught us that if you see garbage on the ground pick it up- Just imagine this is your world, because it is!
So I send out texts or phone calls to get responses and I will hear nothing for days, and when I resend those messages the other side will get pissed off; however, if they send a text to me and I don't respond right away, they still get pissed off.
Where you live do all the streets go one way? Think about it.
I was give 5 tickets to a Green Bay Packer Alumni Vs the Sheriffs Basketball game, happens every year, and I invited my brother and sister-in-law, my son and my Dad. My Dad will do almost everything with other people especially my sister Mary including going to casinos and walking around all night. This is you walk in you sit in seats on the floor for senior citizens and watch the game. He told me today that he know has something to do at two other places and he doesn't want to walk on the steps or sit in the chair, all these excuses. A little insight into my Dad, he sits in his chair at home from 5:30 am until 9ish watching tv unless someone or something mentally drives him out to drink. He is a full-blown alcoholic.
This 2016 new years resolution was supposed to be, I am giving up "I don't understand" because that just ends the situation and it's a win for the other side. My health can't take this anymore.
If I could just sit here and write all day I would and could. It would written and verbal diarrhea. I really want to write my own book of my memoirs. One of the Chapters would be, "My Dooties-not just a play on words."
Pissed off in Kenosha.
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It\'s your journal, write all day if you need to memoir or not. Sorry people are making ya feel this way, some can really drain us. It\'s awesome you want to understand but I find it unhealthy at times. That\'s me anyway.
In Buddhism the right view says \"Right Understanding , insight into the true nature of reality, it is the understanding of things as they are\" This teaching is referring to one\'s self, not exactly the world. When we say we have a view about something we mean our actions, beliefs, feelings, and thoughts in relation to it. It isn\'t your job to understand other people, although it might help you and the situation needs to be ended. It doesn\'t mean you have less compassion or empathy. My advice (and maybe its not wanted, sorry) Take care of you and your son if you can.
Ive been there its crazy and frustrating all at the same time with people who dont answer my texts or call me back i pretty much dont talk to them unless they call me.
the basketball game sounds like fun ive never done that before! Is your dad getting any help?.
i was brought up i gess the army way (dad is ex army) so yeah i get that it can get pretty frustrating when no one else does that stuff!
As UrbanBoho said this your journal you can write as much or as little as you like its good to get it out.
I send emails, texts, and when I speak to someone the usual reply is \"what\". So I guess we are in the same boat. Lets try to go down stream as it is a bit easier. Go with the flow...
NO ONE CAN HEAR ME AS I CAN'T TEXT DON'T HAVE CELL PHONE OH WAIT THEY COULDN'T HEAR ME ANYWAY CAUSE I'M NOT TALKING LMBO AREN'T U GLAD I'M BACK...