I hate feeling like a parent
So today I handed in my vacation slip for Turkey Day. I get that Thursday and Friday off, so I asked for Friday off to avoid having to drive Wednesday night in the heavy traffic to my parents (who are 3+ hours away traffic depending). AND I drive through a mountain pass, and it started snowing, so that can make things slower too.
I mention this to my ex via IM message cuz I'm hiding out in my room writing here on DS (I don't let her be around me when I'm on here).
So through the convo I can't help but feel that I'll always have to parent her (growing into one of my biggest pet peeves I think).
I simply asked if she had bought her plane ticket to visit her parents. What does she say? "No. I dunno if I'm going/can go or not." I ask why and she says "Affordability. Been waiting on dad." Grow a fucking back bone and get off your ass and call them!!! SERIOUSLY...
She bought an iPhone 5, might be buying a PS Vita, has bought numerous video games.... Oh, and her financial aid refund check was over $3,000. I'm pretty sure it was! Her dad was supposed to be giving her money to help pay for this, so it's kind of a lame excuse. If she had gotten off her ass she coulda bought a cheap ticket a month or two ago.
So WTF... I dunno if she's trying to pity party me or what, but I have no fucking tolerance anymore. I HATE feeling like I gotta parent people around me. I'm only 24! Things are never going to change with her.
I hate to say this, cuz it's really mean, but I really fucking wish she would get hit in the face with a 2x4 of LOGIC and REALITY.
*end rant*
I hate feeling bitchy. ~.~
I mention this to my ex via IM message cuz I'm hiding out in my room writing here on DS (I don't let her be around me when I'm on here).
So through the convo I can't help but feel that I'll always have to parent her (growing into one of my biggest pet peeves I think).
I simply asked if she had bought her plane ticket to visit her parents. What does she say? "No. I dunno if I'm going/can go or not." I ask why and she says "Affordability. Been waiting on dad." Grow a fucking back bone and get off your ass and call them!!! SERIOUSLY...
She bought an iPhone 5, might be buying a PS Vita, has bought numerous video games.... Oh, and her financial aid refund check was over $3,000. I'm pretty sure it was! Her dad was supposed to be giving her money to help pay for this, so it's kind of a lame excuse. If she had gotten off her ass she coulda bought a cheap ticket a month or two ago.
So WTF... I dunno if she's trying to pity party me or what, but I have no fucking tolerance anymore. I HATE feeling like I gotta parent people around me. I'm only 24! Things are never going to change with her.
I hate to say this, cuz it's really mean, but I really fucking wish she would get hit in the face with a 2x4 of LOGIC and REALITY.
*end rant*
I hate feeling bitchy. ~.~
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....do they sell those at Lowe\'s? :P
on a serious note, i agree. i went through a similar phase when it seemed like i was having to parent people. eventually, i had to get to a point where i said \"you know what? you\'re an adult. you can sink or swim on your own\". and sadly, most of the people sank. but it wasn\'t my problem anymore. and your ex isn\'t your problem anymore. if she won\'t buy a ticker, or she wants to waste her money, don\'t have any sympathy for her. you\'re better than that :)
It\'s not my place to criticize or blast her for being able to spend her money on video games and other things, but not having enough money to afford plane tickets, but one would think that the plane tickets would be more of a priority over the other items. :/
I honestly think that logic is something that escapes us at some point..or some people.
She\'ll need to wake up to reality on her own, unfortunately.
I just get incredibly frustrated with this. I feel that she needs to be held accountable and I don\'t know how long the \"she\'s young and only 19, still needing to learn how the world works\" reasoning can be used as an excuse.
I am fully aware that part of me is going to have a sore spot for this because it\'s a big reason why I had to end the \"relationship\" but I think it\'s also turning into a huge pet peeve of mine because my ex did the same shit and I know I can\'t take it because I want to be around strong people who fight to get things done and fight to better themselves.
I suggest that you stop worrying about what she does with her oney and what her plans are... really you don\'t WANT them tobe your business. don\'t even ask... she will be wherever she is at whenever. right? you just take care of you.