I gather the happy days -advice from frank by vader

The date was July 18th,2004.It was a sunday.What was unusual Frank my brother called me and he usually does call me on Tuesday.This day was special.It was the last time that I spoke to Frank and I have to share with what my late beloved brother Frank told me..."Vader.,,if anything happens...please remember this.Gather The Happy Days.Remember the good times that we had with Mom and Dad in the house.Remember our little dog,Schuller and remember all of the parties.Remember this...vader...because i dont feel so good.YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO LIVE WITHOUT ME AND REMEMBER THIS....WHAT HAPPENS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.I WANT YOU TO HAVE A VERY HAPPY LIFE AND DONT WIND UP LIKE ME.I HATE BEING IN THIS NURSING HOME.VADER...YOU MUST PROMISE ME...THAT YOU WILL DO LIKE GRANDPA...WALK EVERYDAY.WALK WHENNVER YOU CAN.IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD.AND IT WILL DEVELOP YOUR BONES.Walk and listen to your music...vader....PROMISE ME THAT WHAT WILL HAPPEN...YOU WILL LEAVE BRAD.VADER...I FEAR FOR YOUR SAFETY.HE GIVES ME THE CREEPS.VADER...IF YOU STAY...YOU WILL ONLY GET HEARTBREAK.BELIEVE ME...SISSY HE IS NOT WORTH IT.NO MAN IS WORTH ALL OF THIS LOVE NONSENSE AND I AM SO SORRY THAT I SCREWED UP MY LIFE OVER A LOUSY WOMAN.SOME PEOPLE ARE NOT WORTH IT.BRAD ISNT WORTH IT.VADER...THERE IS GOING TO BE A TIME WHEN YOU WILL BE ALONE AND YOU WILLJUST HAVE THE CATS.PROMISE ME THAT YOU WILL LAUGH AND I MEAN LAUGH ONCE A DAY.I LIKE TO WATCH THE THREE STOOGES...THEY MAKE ME LAUGH AND WHEN i LAUGH THE PAIN GOES AWAY.YOU WILL PROBABLY OUTLIVE ALL OF US AND I HOPE THAT YOU WILL.BUT VADER...DO ME A FAVOR...LEAVE BRAD NOW BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE..HE IS NOT WORTH ALL OF THE HEARTACHE.gather the happy days and be nice to people who are nice to you...what is the point of being nice to someone who isnt? It dont make sense.Dont waste your energy on people who wish you ill.Be around postive people.And remember this vader...brad does not love you.He is using you and you wil find this out." Gather the happy days,vader and when you see Curly...smile for me.Today I thought of Frank and all of the happy days and I feel a little better and i do realize this...brad did not love me and I will never love again.never.I gave Frank my promise.vader. 

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Oh Hon, Frank was ill, you mustn\'t close yourself off forever when there could be happiness out there for you! I went through 2 divorces, one because of alcoholism and control freak, the other, I can\'t even discuss. I promised myself NEVER to love again, but a friend of mine, proved he was a real friend, he is 12 yrs younger, and it took 5 yrs of dating (not even living together,) before I said yes. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. It will be 16 yrs this year, and I am disabled with many health problems, this man is THERE for me, at my side, helping me,...doing for me, and loving me. So, what I am saying is,..Don\'t give up? I did, too, but look at the happiness I would have missed if I remained bitter! Good luck my friend, Judy
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You are blessed to have had a brother who loved you so deeply and unselfishly. So unconditionally. This was a blessing from God.Love , and do what he said focus on what you have not what you lost. That is my mantra. I say it ti myself a hundred times a day? Remember all I have, not what I lost! Peggy