I feel better today. I took some of my life back
I wrote out some of my feelings and felt better after doing so... Thanks to you who sent hugs! Last night I had only to look around me and see what was happening around me due to my arm hurting. I've been letting my 29 yr bio mom of two of the kids stay with us. I asked if she would cook dinner due to my arm...She didn't I got it done around 7:30pm. She went out for Ice cream with the girls and put the baby in bed without a bath. Not good since he has a cranial band on his head. Baby woke up right after she left, so my husband and I bathed, fed and put Gs to sleep. Texted daughter to get the girls back due to 5yr old still hadn't done her home work and it was 8:30. This morning I work up 5 year old was sleepy and didn't want to go to school. Bio mom took off to her place to get dressed for work. In the mean time I'm logged into my work at 6AM trying to get something done between kids. Bio mom comes back and I didn't get the diaper bag ready for DC. I figured she took off and I took on the three kids while working. Well, Bio mom comes back and off to DC with baby. I find out cereal wasn't packed and go back to the house. When I get to DC bio mom ditched me, so I'm trying to pick baby up with a bum arm. We weren't late...7:30am is drop off time and baby and I were there at 7:30. no reason for bio to ditch me!
I texted Bio mom and told her thanks for the ditch and she can stay at her place from now on because she's more work than the three kids. I also told her she can get with her P/A and come up with visitation. I look at how trashed my house is each and every morning and how I'm not only doing the work of the three kids, because she isn't taking the work of just her two but adding more for me becuase she just leaves everything right where she uses it instead of putting it away!! Well, my husband is going to have to step up and assist and we'll get the job done. Our mess will be ours and the disappointments from Bio mom will not be around any longer because she will be out of the picture too.
I feel good about this! I might have bad days, but you know what...I have bad days now, and I live through it!
I texted Bio mom and told her thanks for the ditch and she can stay at her place from now on because she's more work than the three kids. I also told her she can get with her P/A and come up with visitation. I look at how trashed my house is each and every morning and how I'm not only doing the work of the three kids, because she isn't taking the work of just her two but adding more for me becuase she just leaves everything right where she uses it instead of putting it away!! Well, my husband is going to have to step up and assist and we'll get the job done. Our mess will be ours and the disappointments from Bio mom will not be around any longer because she will be out of the picture too.
I feel good about this! I might have bad days, but you know what...I have bad days now, and I live through it!
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