I dont know where to start...
I am 31 years old and i guess i should start by saying why am writing . I have 3 kids all beautiful and healthy children. I really only have one child though. the last one whom is 7 years old. my oldest lives with her grandmother since she has been three and is 14 now. I don't see her at all and am just recently started to pay child support for her, which i don't mind only thing is I don't get to visit her. Been to court and she herself has chosen not to have visits with me . My middle child was given up for adoption at birth and my reasons is because i could not care for her at the time so i chose to give her to a family. She is 9 years old now. I am happy they both are in safe places where they are loved and cared for. Also, am happy to see myself able to take care of my son on my own, his father has never been in his life. Some days I am happy about the decisions I made and I can live with it, but then there are those days I just question myself did I make the best decision? is there anyone out there like me who just needs someone to talk to?
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I have so much I can share with you, but not all of it at this time. I can tell you I have a 22 year old daughter I adopted when she was 16. I would be happy to fill in the blanks for you in the next week or so as time permits. My husband operates a tourist driven business and summer is our busy time.
Just remember one thing, your children are safe. That is important to any mother.
I am an adoptee and can only speak from that perspective but keep in mind that your child is young and embarking on the journey of self discovery that is very difficult at that age.
The most important thing is to keep the door open and if you are there with an open mind over time the opportunity will come. I have met very few adoptees who do not want some contact with their bio family.
If there is not an opportunity to meet send a card or note on occasion let your child know that you care. Don\'t give up.
Thank you lisasnotlisa can we be friends