I AM MAD
Well Jim has started smoking again. He is back to a pack a day. I asked him why and did not answer me. I truly think it is because he is mad at me because I took some time away. He is still capable of warming food that I have prepared and capable of getting in the car and driving to the corner for cigarettes. I stay home with him every day, except the last couple of weekends I have gone to watch the granddaughter play basketball. Had another round of my diverticulitis, 3rd day now. Once a month for the last 4 months. Oh well I will get over it all. It is just so hard to watch someone kill themselves. I know we all do it to ourselves in one way or another, if I would not eat so poorly I probably would not be sick either.
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That is too bad that Jim started to smoke again, so bad for his health and yours. I am glad you took some time to yourself, everyone needs to recharge with something fun! I agree watching someone make poor health decisions is very difficult and sometimes just darn right frustrating, especially when we have to do everything when they go down. Take deep breaths and keep on taking care of yourself. Hugs to you, BL
Thanks for the concern. Hope your are okay too. Patty
We need to take time for ourselves for sure. Remember how on an airplane they tell us to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first? There is a reason for that ! We are no good at helping others until we have taken good care of ourselves first! Jim is sure to have feelings of self-pity, etc. but please know that it is OK for you to also have time for yourself as well. Why is it that men have such a difficult time reaching out to others for their own support? And i know that I tend to jump in a enable people in my life to wear me out, emotionally and physically too many times. Hope you are doing better today! I am glad I found this group.