I am giving up this time for good!

Well, this is it.  I am giving up on the inlaws.  Ever since my husband stopped calling all the time to see how everyone was doing, we hear from no one.  I have been upset about this for a long time.  But to top things off, I started genealogy research and was trying to attempt help from an aunt in law.  She said sure,  and spent an hour talking to me and making me think things were ok.  She asked me to give her time to work on it.  This has been 2 months ago.  Well, the other day, I thought I would just call and see how things were going, and she said that Ireland is slow to respond and that she would get the info to me when she can.  I said no problem, whenever.  So today in the mail, I got an envelope and a rather cold letter saying that since I was in a hurry to do research that she was mailing back all the paperwork to me and can't help me anymore.  I didn't rush her, I just called to see how things were coming along.  That's the problem with the inlaws, as they just twist things around all the time and we're the bad guys.  I just can't take it anymore, because everytime I do try to make some contact, stuff backfires on us.  We haven't done anything to these people and we are being treated like crap.  I find that I am happier when I don't see them or hear from them.  I am trying to get through my life not having a breakdown.  I know in my heart that we didn't start anything but because we don't fall all over them, we're no good and no one acknowledges us.  I need a good cry.

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ginnycat
ginnycat

You have better things to do in your life than to have these people disrupt it. You are better off without them. I\'m glad you are pulling away. Why be treated like dirt? Enjoy life. Take care. God bless. Love from Ginny
GeorgiaW
GeorgiaW

Honey I\'m so sorry you got crappy in-laws, most of mine are that way too, it\'s fine as long as everything is about them but god forbid you should need something, even if it\'s just a pat on the back once in awhile for something you did well then they ignore you or turn on you.
With the excpetion of one sister in law, who I\"m sure is really an alien or was switched at birth, we have nothing to do with my husbands family and sadly mine were even worse then his.
In the place of relatives we have friends, wonderful people who actualy care about others and that is so much better, blood may be thicker then water but that just makes it harder to clean up. Hugs and snuggles.
BubblesDavey
BubblesDavey

When we get up off the floor no one can step on us.
Sometimes people (relatives) are over the top with their abuse. Stay clear and take care of yourselves.
Blessings.