I am giving up this time for good!

Well, this is it.  I am giving up on the inlaws.  Ever since my husband stopped calling all the time to see how everyone was doing, we hear from no one.  I have been upset about this for a long time.  But to top things off, I started genealogy research and was trying to attempt help from an aunt in law.  She said sure,  and spent an hour talking to me and making me think things were ok.  She asked me to give her time to work on it.  This has been 2 months ago.  Well, the other day, I thought I would just call and see how things were going, and she said that Ireland is slow to respond and that she would get the info to me when she can.  I said no problem, whenever.  So today in the mail, I got an envelope and a rather cold letter saying that since I was in a hurry to do research that she was mailing back all the paperwork to me and can't help me anymore.  I didn't rush her, I just called to see how things were coming along.  That's the problem with the inlaws, as they just twist things around all the time and we're the bad guys.  I just can't take it anymore, because everytime I do try to make some contact, stuff backfires on us.  We haven't done anything to these people and we are being treated like crap.  I find that I am happier when I don't see them or hear from them.  I am trying to get through my life not having a breakdown.  I know in my heart that we didn't start anything but because we don't fall all over them, we're no good and no one acknowledges us.  I need a good cry.