Husband Is Generous to a Fault With Ex

My husband, who is long divorced, pays his ex-wife much more than required child support. And he's financed their children's college accounts by twice the agreed amount. He does this because his ex-wife claims she is broke, even though she remarried a rich man and lives a lavish life. Worse, he's started hiding his payments from me. It's admirable that he's so generous, but after six years of marriage, with my own child entering college, I feel taken advantage of. Do I have the right to speak up? G. P., Long Island Something tells me you've already spoken up once or twice (an hour). That may be why Hubby is paying in secret, annoying you further, and shrinking the pot of do-re-mi available to you and yours. Whoever said blending families was going to be easy? Your feelings are natural. But asking your husband to do less for his children is not the solution here. (His ex-wife may not work, or her Richie Rich husband may have no interest in providing for her offspring.) Try again. Say: "Honey, you need to do what you feel is right. But you can't keep me in the dark about your payments. We're in this together. So, let's agree that you'll be more forthcoming, and I'll only vent when my head is about to explode. Deal?" Just this once, I will let the ciggies slide. Your predicament Newport Cigarettes Price sounds as rough as it was up on Brokeback Mountain (though probably not as sexy): "I wish I knew how to quit you," Marlboro Lights. Find a peaceful moment (when no one is sniping or Marlboro Cigarettes Price sucking on cancer sticks) and say: "I'm trying my best to quit. Good luck, Jeannie!