Hurting Again

H has pretty wel stopped being so nice and considerate and affectionate to me.  He has not intiated sex in over a month.  I have several times and we always enjoy it.  I son't want to be the only one intiating it since he chose OW to have sex with I need to feel he wants me.  He says he is just tired from work, that never stopped him from making tome to see her. Oh yeah that was fun for him, I am work.  Lat month he told me how much he was getting from our relationship when he was putting forth the effor, was that a lie?  I am so confused and hurt again.  I know we had hysterical bonding for a while but I thought it had developed into something more real.  I went off the antidepressants because of the side effects but they did mae me feel better, now I am sad all the time.  Maybe that is what he is reacting to. I read the post on selfishness and how a healthy person should be between 3 and 5.  That has me thinking about where he is and where I am. Definitely something to talk about with my therapist.  I have been steeling myself for the last year to leave and be alone so I think I can do it but I don't want to make a rushed decision.  I keep telling my self to wait a year after DDAy.  It will be 6 months March 6.