Human Relationships vs. God's Relationship

Jesus said "If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple." Luke 14:26 That verse confused me for a long time... I knew that obviously Jesus didn't mean for us to literally hate everyone! A man preached last weekend and explained it this way - our love for God should be so great, so consuming... so overwhelming that all other relationships can't compare.  We're human, and desire our human relationships, but they are with sinful people, and originate with ourselves who are sinners as well.  Sometimes relationships can be abusive, and continually hurt and scar us because the people that are a part of it are slaves to their own sin and previous abuse. Today God gave me this verse, because I'm learning that the only way to stop being hurt is to let go. I can honor my mother and I can love her to an extent, but I don't need to pine after her affection and keep hoping she will change or eventually I will feel loved and appreciated. I think God is just saying for me to stop beating my head against the door trying to get to my mother, to turn and walk away and follow Him.  Then I'll find freedom from her, I won't be a slave to her remarks and my day/life ruined because of her influence. In order to be free I have to give her up. Not in the literal sense of disowning her...but in an emotional sense where my happiness is no longer tied to her approval.
Mark 3:33 And he answered them, saying, 'Who is my mother, or my brethren?' And he looked round about on them which sat about him, and said, 'Behold my mother and my brethren! For whosoever shall do the will of God, the same is my brother, and my sister, and mother.'