HUMAN RELATIONS 101
OK, SO I GOT INTO A HEATED DISCUSSION WITH MY BABY MOMMA, AND IT MADE ME THINK OF HOW CAN WE HAVE POSITIVE RELATIONS WITH SOMEONE THAT WE REALLY DON'T LIKE? OR SOMEONE THAT JUST HAPPENS TO OFFEND US WHETHER IT WAS INTENTIONAL OR NOT. OR HELL, I OFFEND YOU, LORD KNOWS I RUN OFF AT THE MOUTH AND OFTEN OFFEND MANY. WELL, THIS CAME TO MY MIND AND I WANTED TO BREAK IT DOWN FROM BOTH SIDES OF THE DISCUSSION. IT'S LIKE THIS... I OFFEND YOUYOU CONFRONT MEI APOLOGIZE TO YOUYOU FORGIVE MEWE BOTH MOVE ON TOGETHER. OR... YOU OFFEND MEI CONFRONT YOUYOU APOLOGIZE TO MEI FORGIVE YOUWE BOTH MOVE ON TOGETHER. IT'S REAL SIMPLE: OFFEND, CONFRONT, APOLOGIZE, FORGIVE, AND MOVE ON. REPEAT IF ANOTHER OFFENSE TAKES PLACE. THINGS "NOT" TO DO...DON'T DISCREDIT THE OFFENSE LIKE THAT SHOULDN'T OFFEND YOU. DON'T DEFEND YOURSELF WHEN YOU'RE CONFRONTED, YOU CAN EXPLAIN THE CIRCUMSTANCES SO THAT THE OFFENDED HAS AN UNDERSTANDING, BUT DON'T TRY TO PROVE THAT YOU WERE RIGHT IN WHAT YOU DID. DON'T BE SARCASTIC OR INSINCERE IN YOUR APOLOGY. AND... DON'T DISCREDIT THEIR APOLOGY LIKE I DIDN'T EVEN CARE AND YOU DIDN'T HAVE TO APOLOGIZE IN THE FIRST PLACE, JUST FORGIVE AND DON'T BRING IT UP WHEN THE NEXT OFFENCE TAKES PLACE. EACH OFFENSE IS SINGULAR AND SHOULDN'T BE COMPOUNDED LIKE YOU ALWAYS DO THIS OR THAT. IT'S SIMPLE HUMAN RELATIONS, BUT YOU WOULD BE SURPRIZED HOW DIFFICULT IT IS FOR PEOPLE TO PLAY BOTH ROLES OF THE OFFENDED AND THE OFFENDER. THINK ABOUT THIS IN YOUR EVERYDAY RELATIONSHIPS AND LET ME KNOW IF THERE IS SOMETHING I'M MISSING IN THIS SIMPLE ARRANGEMENT.
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