How & why, & can this be corrected?
Hi Ev1! I've had BUNCH'a issues the last several days! From my Phone, to laptop, forgotten passwords, my entire page smothered with personal IM's. I'll say I hope it was unintentional, and not out of pure meanness. I imagine I will never know. Oh yea.. even got "fired" at a Sr Citizen center, because someone decided to place a restraining order on me, which also included in the order I committed "
Elder Abuse." All I really need, or want to say, is that I never ever committed "Elder Abuse," and has no clue what I have done, nor what I been doing, yet still "knows"and accuses me of untruths, yes, I DO lash out, I Can only take so much of untruths. FYI, I was graciously allowed to stay else where, after I was flooded out of my own home over a yr and a half ago, am physically disabled, Had two surgeries, while I was flooded out, hoped I could move back home slowly,but wasn't quick enough. Thats how this 4 yr long order happened. Anyways, this in my opinion doesn't belong in this forum. If Not for someone, reaching out to me, Steve Wouldn't be here anymore. To know that someone whom loved you,or so I thought, did whatever that was expected of me, YES, to reverse the R.O. and still is accused of trash, finally realizing I was indeed never even wanted...... This site, truly saved my life, way of thinking, and what love, unconditional love, really is. I know now, as sad as it is where I stand with my immediate family,my extended family, whom was told by, I have no clue, to immediately stop talking to me,( which worked, btw.) Awesome Job at passing pure B S...... Selling used cars at a corner lot was you true calling. Guess what, as much as I know you wanted me to ace myself; idk why, but, sorry, I still love you! You din't succeed on that, sorry! Dailystrength.org, THANK YOU! Just ask,I owe y'all my life! ~Steve~
Elder Abuse." All I really need, or want to say, is that I never ever committed "Elder Abuse," and has no clue what I have done, nor what I been doing, yet still "knows"and accuses me of untruths, yes, I DO lash out, I Can only take so much of untruths. FYI, I was graciously allowed to stay else where, after I was flooded out of my own home over a yr and a half ago, am physically disabled, Had two surgeries, while I was flooded out, hoped I could move back home slowly,but wasn't quick enough. Thats how this 4 yr long order happened. Anyways, this in my opinion doesn't belong in this forum. If Not for someone, reaching out to me, Steve Wouldn't be here anymore. To know that someone whom loved you,or so I thought, did whatever that was expected of me, YES, to reverse the R.O. and still is accused of trash, finally realizing I was indeed never even wanted...... This site, truly saved my life, way of thinking, and what love, unconditional love, really is. I know now, as sad as it is where I stand with my immediate family,my extended family, whom was told by, I have no clue, to immediately stop talking to me,( which worked, btw.) Awesome Job at passing pure B S...... Selling used cars at a corner lot was you true calling. Guess what, as much as I know you wanted me to ace myself; idk why, but, sorry, I still love you! You din't succeed on that, sorry! Dailystrength.org, THANK YOU! Just ask,I owe y'all my life! ~Steve~
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When a family chooses tough love, or I should say any type of shunning of family members, it serves only one purpose, it hurts the one being shunned and it only makes matters worse. Part of what hurts people and part of the reason I started using drugs and drinking was because I was shunned at the age of 5. I am not saying I started drinking at that age, but when I got into my teens, heck yes anything to make me feel better and I even dressed the part for attention.
I just want to say these things to you because I feel that when family members start that nonsense, it ends up with bad results. I didn\'t have to turn to drugs or alcohol and I have nobody to blame but myself, but let\'s just say being the blacksheep sure didn\'t help stop me from it either.
We see about tough love, we see about showing the tough act, and we also see more and more people hurting. A person can practice true love by loving unconditionally. I know from experience where that tough other crap leads to, and that is what I call it too, tough crap, even brown in color!
I am now 51 and I realize beyond all doubt that I had to show another kind of blacksheep ways and get the hell out of my families life. I don\'t go around them, I won\'t talk to them, but yet I don\'t wish any bad things on them like they do me.
Your journal touched my heart, because a true cry for help and really, it is ashame when family members have to resort to this type of behavior. When a person feels loved, they are more apt to really try, when they feel abandoned, they are more apt to act abandoned. Hugs to you!
Lucy, omg... Thank you so so much! You said elaquintly what I am feeling every dern day. The best way I can describe this, is like a continuing stage of mourning the death of someone, But that someone is, and are thee very most beloved people in my life. She even persuaded my own blood daughter the same stuff. I raised her, and her half sister, for almost 15 years by myself, on my own. It took their mother to default the courts 4 times, before I was granted 100% legal n physical. My oldest, isn\'t my blood daughter, but she IS my daughter! She made Thanks giving dinner, fir the first time, just for me! She refuses to allow this B.S. to effect her.
The rest? well they hear from my only sibling these tails, and believe them..... Why? Because she\'s a Born Again, or Reborn Christian. Now I know when people say the phrase of a fearful God.
My God, if I ever find Him or Her WILL be a loving God! A God that hugs you wen you need that hug. A God that truly is a forgiving God! Yes I am speaking figuratively, but I always pictured God as a Lady. A maternal God isn\'t supposed to hurt.
Maybe thats because my dad was a weekend warrior drinking till he peed his trousers, and became the meanest dude ever! I got black and blue from him.
thinking he\'s passed out on the sofa, and not having the respect of saying hi! What nerve! Yet, I still loved him, n cried when he passed away!
I say far too many times, why me? Why?