How to truly heal?!?!

Today is a day where I feel ok about everything. But I don't know where I stand on what and how I need to heal. I WANT TO HEAL! From everything. Not just being cheated on but all of my past abuse issues. To finally feel whole and know who I am as a person. To respect myself more. Trying to find help is 1000 times harder than finding a needle in a hay stack. If you find the help it cost to much to even think about it.
To even get help on how to heal and move on from being cheated on is a start.