How to cope
Wandering how to cope with all my news of my husbands porn addiction. This was brought to my attention 3-years ago but not realizing it kept going on all this time. He would stop when I found out.
We have had many tallks this last time I found out and thought things where going in the right direction. His counceller was out of town so we had to wait for him to return and in the mean time I told him to find help on-line and suggested some sites.
He has been reading these sites which is good but still not open with me about everything, there are so many lies that he will not disclose to me.
Now he signed up to Skype, I have been ready about porn addicts and eliminating access to porn is something to be done, so Skype is a new tool to see other people on line, I said no way and will wait for his response. He said he daughter asked him to, well he can call her anytime he doesn't need to see her face then use this tool for porn. I am putting my foot down on it and will see how it goes. I don't think I need this extra stress right now but he seems to only care about his problems not mine.
We will be talking tonight as I am not letting him and myself just email each other we need communication.
We have had many tallks this last time I found out and thought things where going in the right direction. His counceller was out of town so we had to wait for him to return and in the mean time I told him to find help on-line and suggested some sites.
He has been reading these sites which is good but still not open with me about everything, there are so many lies that he will not disclose to me.
Now he signed up to Skype, I have been ready about porn addicts and eliminating access to porn is something to be done, so Skype is a new tool to see other people on line, I said no way and will wait for his response. He said he daughter asked him to, well he can call her anytime he doesn't need to see her face then use this tool for porn. I am putting my foot down on it and will see how it goes. I don't think I need this extra stress right now but he seems to only care about his problems not mine.
We will be talking tonight as I am not letting him and myself just email each other we need communication.
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I\'m so sorry you\'re having to deal with this. It sounds like it might be time to start laying down the law and is time for the hubs to either step it up or get out. I\'ve never dealt with porn addiction, but I did have an old boyfriend who got addicted to substances and he would get help then relapse and continue to lie. Sadly if a person doesn\'t want to change, we can\'t force them to change. I hope you can find some resolution soon, as I\'m sure having this kind of stress makes it harder to manage your Addison\'s. *hugs* Like I said, I truly hope some resolution comes soon. Hope you have a wonderful day!