How I became on Orphan

I came from a broken family. My folks divorced in 1980 and both remarried. My father remarried twice. I never imagined a reality of a world that I lived at one time. My view on having a stepparent.So you now have a stepparent.Be prepared to have your beloved parent ripped away from you to care for another person's children and grandchildren. You in their life are no longer. Helping you out is not an option and you will be sent through extreme hell, if you even mention or ask for help. Yet, they will go great lengths to help the other children in the family. I think there is a secret agency in this country called the National Family Terrorist Society, where they are always recruiting for control freaks, obsessive mates and people from insane asylums, who are off their meds. They recruit these people and tell them to find their own client with benefits - Kind of like the Primeamerica idea. The recruits go out and find those broken down single mothers with a few children. The qualifier, is that the mother who has not gone for any therapy after her divorce. See Mothers, like that are the easiest because what they have - home, children, money etc can be easily acquired because they are vulnerable. They have problems in parenting their children. (Every parent has that!). To be a family terrorist you need to have these qualities - extremely insecure within self, materialistic obsession of money and possessions over love itself, hates children, strongly competitive, no respect for anybody, an Ego bigger than Everest, A strong belief that they are always right on how to live, do things and what to say and a desire to not work. In the beginning they will strongly expect you to do every parenting duty they have to look after their child, if you are older than their bundles of gold. This includes kissing their ass! They will never show appreciation or have a thankful attitude for you helping them, because this is beneath them. You owe them your services and will get NOTHING ever in return. If they have kids older than you, all of what you have is now owned by their kids. They praise their children for beating up on you to "keep you in line". Their children can't do anything wrong! If you were to screw up on him or her, their punishment towards you is extremely harsh and unrelenting. The punishment makes boot camp seem like Walt Disney World. Anything their kids want they get - including the lavish Christmas and Birthday presents and a free trip to Mexico. He or she will ask their child was is their hearts desire and not to be so cheap with what they want. Money is no object. They want the very best for their child and not you. You will get nothing, maybe some toilet paper if you're extremely lucky. Why should they even have to spend their or your parent's hard earned money on something worthless and not theirs? Little Gracy is sick and at home. They will honorably stay at home and make sure their child gets the best care in the world and is seen by the top doctors and gets the finest medicines that money can by. They will give their child the pampering and supportive treatment. When you're sick you get to still do up all your chores and given an expired aspirin to take. Rest to get better is never permitted cause if it did happen it would mean that they would actually have to do work around the house. He or she wonders why should they even bother to care whether or not your sick - as long as you do all the housework, cooking and cleaning than that is what matters. Your stepsiblings will graciously adopt the attitude of your stepparent towards you. They know that they are more valued and better than you. You see, in their eyes you are a pathetic embarrassment to the family. They, in NO way ever want to spend time with you or even get to know you. They will always assume that you are the cruelest, coldhearted piece of work that was born. You hold no redeeming quality and think that there is no way in hell that you would dare change from that image - even if you were to spend half your life in the insane asylum seeking treatment. They demand all your possessions and the stepparent will not hear your cries for fairness. Besides, what RIGHTS do YOU even have? Don't put your hopes on ever getting an inheritance because the majority of it is gone to the other kids and you will end up with very little, if not, nothing. Sure your beloved parent sort of loves you but it's the stepparent who really cashes in and gives his or her own child what is yours. Why should little Bessie not get $500,000? Besides, YOU have no right to it. Especially, if your parent is worth over a million bucks. The more the stepparent can suck your parent dry the better they feel. It's really not a marriage of love - it's more a marriage of material. The day they married your parent was the greatest and sweetest victory of them all because the marriage license is the license to become who they actually are now. They know that your parent would never abandon them or leave them. You can yearn to spend time with your parent - good luck. Your parent's time and associations will be controlled by the stepparent whom your own parent will answer to completely. You parent will have turned into a puppet with your stepparent's hand shoved deeply up your parent's ass that one would think it was there naturally. You will instinctively know that your stepparent deeply hates you and will not welcome you in to their life, ever. They will see you as the cause of every single evil in your parent's life and others in the family. The family members will rally up and stand firmly behind the stepparent, like him or her is a most holy god to be worshipped. If you were to stand your ground with them, you have lost the entire support of that family. If you ever were to grow a spine, it would greatly motivate them to get you the hell out of their life. Like how dare you even have the nerve to correct them at all. You're official title of the family will be troublemaker and the ever so popular BLACK SHEEP. Your reputation in the family seems to give Bin laden a good name. When you meet up with your stepparent, they will pretend that you don't exist and will purposely walk past you sneering. He or She will sit and glare at you as if you were a rotting corpse that smells up the whole room. Anything you say will be met by negative comments, great insults and personal put-downs. Tired of being treated poorly? They won't care because they take a deep pleasure in hurting you and feel very just acting that way. They firmly believe that you're a screw up and will ruin the innocent lives around you. Your parent is under their new mate's spell. They will never stand up for you or even take your side in a debate. You may yearn to spend some family time during special events. Your stepparent will go great lengths to see that you are not there to ruin the evening. Alienation and ostracizing people they hate are their specialty. The more unwelcome you feel the more joy they have in his or her life and it fills their hope that you will soon drop dead from their lives, PERMANENTLY! If you ever did get a lucky chance to visit, they quickly tire of your presence and cheerfully call the police to have you escorted away and charged for trespassing. Some of the energetic ones will pack up and move away and not tell you. After the move, they will throw a huge celebration of her or his victory, that they got rid of a useless walking abortion from hell. Being civil and respectful is not their forte and could care less about it. The more they belittle you or completely embarrass you in public the greater and stronger they feel. They take great pleasure in making your life a living hell. As they see it they rule the world and the family they are in and have no use for small, weak and pathetic people. They see themselves as a perfect being with no problems and it's the others that have issues and need to be put into a sanitarium. He or she would commit you in one hot minute and have no regrets. If killing were legal, you would have been dead a very long time ago - like right after meeting your parent. You wanna sit down and discuss problems in your relationship with them? Are you kidding, the stepparent wasting their highly valuable time on YOU? You're out of your mind and had better get back on your meds! Why should they waste their breath on something that is unimportant as "problems". Yeah, there is problems and that's you. Shut the fuck up and go to hell are their favorite sayings and would love to tattoo it with a meat cleaver into your skin with great pride. You will always be compared to somebody who is seemingly doing better than you in life. If you are not rich and don't have a mansion, than you are just crap in their eyes. The stepparent will constantly tell you that over and over again and eventually slap your face if you were to ask them to stop saying those things. If you were to go back to school, they would wonder why even bother. If your stepsibling aspires to go to College, they gleefully send their child to Yale or another top University in the world. They will spend $100,000 on their child's education and are hopeful that their child gets the highest paying job there is and live in luxury. "Their family" will have 8 places all over the world and high-class trips to boot. They believe their illusion of being royalty and no body had better mess with them. You become sick and need help at home? They will view you as having the plague and will seek a restraining order to keep you away and to keep them away, legally. A friend calls your family after you were sent to the emergency from some kind of accident....HOW DARE you interrupt their supper for something that is unimportant and having no relevance to their family. The thought of phoning to the Phone Company to report telephone harassment is highly appealing in their minds. Your beloved parent follows suit and goes to party it up, laughing the whole time. In their world you are never allowed to be yourself. You are expected to kill who you are and never speak. What you are is meaningless to them. Your life's value is lower than a bowel movement in your stepparent's eyes. Your worth is back into the triple minuses. They don't care about your interests, your friends, your past etc. They refuse to even hear about the accomplishments and successes in your life. You had better adapt to their world and fast. They will take all you have and slam it down your throat till they get you to how they want you to be. Even if you conform to their world, it will never be good enough for them. Any mistake you make is grounds for severe punishment and a high dose of putting you to shame and belittling. There is no such thing as being supportive and understanding -it's all in your head. There is a no tolerance to crying, which carries grim consequences. So be wary if your single parent finds a new love, who seems charming and welcoming at first. This is the only time you will see the fake, shallow self they are. To your parent, you were a precious bundle of joy in their life at the beginning. Your parent sang soft promises of always being there and loving you and eventually you are soon replaced by the stepparent and their children. This is the most devastating thing for such a family loving person. Heaven is a myth and hell is your reality.