How does one cope with loneliness?
I am from a small town and I had to move to the city due to my work in 2005. I was a happy go lucky when I was in high school... always bubbly... but recently some of my old friends who met me mentioned that I have changed a lot .. that I have mellowed down a lot... not so bubbly as before.
A series of events that happened in my life since I moved to the city had turned me into a hermit... I learned to keep to myself thinking that life is less complicated this way. I was also very active in my small town church ... active in the cell group meetings, mission trips and the worship ministry. But since I came to the city, I still have not found a church where I can fit in. Eventually I stopped attending church one year back though I still visit my home church when I am back home to visit my parents.
The city had been a very lonely place for me. People were always in a hurry ... people were cold. The loneliness was compounded by the fact that I was staying by myself. It worsened when my sister moved away to another country due to a job promotion. Usually I am able to cope by keeping myself busy, playing my PC and PS3 games ... watching TV, walking the malls by myself.
Recently I was also struggling with my sexual preferences that I might more feelings for the same sex even though I had dated a couple of times with girls. So all these added up .... and the loneliness sometimes cripples me..
So how do you guys cope? I had been looking for a place of support for sometime ... and there is not many people here I can open up and who will not judge me. I hope that DailyStrength will truly be a source of strength for me to go on each day.
A series of events that happened in my life since I moved to the city had turned me into a hermit... I learned to keep to myself thinking that life is less complicated this way. I was also very active in my small town church ... active in the cell group meetings, mission trips and the worship ministry. But since I came to the city, I still have not found a church where I can fit in. Eventually I stopped attending church one year back though I still visit my home church when I am back home to visit my parents.
The city had been a very lonely place for me. People were always in a hurry ... people were cold. The loneliness was compounded by the fact that I was staying by myself. It worsened when my sister moved away to another country due to a job promotion. Usually I am able to cope by keeping myself busy, playing my PC and PS3 games ... watching TV, walking the malls by myself.
Recently I was also struggling with my sexual preferences that I might more feelings for the same sex even though I had dated a couple of times with girls. So all these added up .... and the loneliness sometimes cripples me..
So how do you guys cope? I had been looking for a place of support for sometime ... and there is not many people here I can open up and who will not judge me. I hope that DailyStrength will truly be a source of strength for me to go on each day.
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I was told by someone on here as one goes another one comes ..I use to work for a firm and there was some people my work colleagues who were like my family but the place closed down..I thought it would never happen again in fact seven months it took to get over but it happened..I love debating and churning things over ..I found a new job and got a debating partner but sadly all good things can come to an end as that job ended ..I rang him up but he was just about to have a pizza and watch a zombie movie..LOL now I know no debate would drag him away from his pizza or zombie movie so I decided as there was no chat on Ds the bright idea of finding a chat room..I thought I was fine found one that was ok..It said you could throw in a question and two people would discuss it or you could do one to one..rolls my eyes here the conversation was not quite the best of conversations cough cough best not repeat the conversation it ended up with me throwing a fit..I just wanted a debate but LMAO with he words from a guy I think youre in the wrong place..oops anyway I decided th world had gone mad that nobody cared for each other..I could decide to be a hermit but Im not for a start Id drive myself nuts with my debates because I would think Im always right..Ds is a good place to start with but keep looking..Im not giving up another debating partner will appear..
I hope that you will find what you are looking for .. thanks for dropping by :) Cheers!
LOL Im sure one will appear and you will be ok also :)