HOW DARE YOU!!!

So today I was looking at the SIDS discussion board....I am a still a newbie so I look at everyones profile after they post to try to either jog my memory or get to know a lil more about them. So of course I check the last post that was made and it happens to be the post "?" I read what she typed and proceeded to check the profile the first thing that  I look at is a status that says "ALL THE PPL in the SIDS Group can go F*** themselves" (of course I can spell so Im assuming that is what she meant to write)....so that registers as a mental note. I continue reading all the other posts....ok GINGER...ok AMBER...uh huh Kathy...okay TLEAK. So I'm reading about the "near sids" drama....the good ole internet.....I can still see those posts. So I start reading.... AS I READ I got the warning message from Kathy but at that point it was too late. But anyways....Im sure we all know that a support group is a place where you seek support from persons who have experienced something that you're going through. FIRST OFF.....I see so many people that are being nice and politely telling her that she should seek other opinions because we feel that there is no gray when it comes to SIDS its black or white...so I have to say it how I feel. EITHER your baby is DEAD and  GONE  (Like the true SIDS mommies) or your child is alive.  SECOND OF ALL....how can we tell you about something that we know nothing about? The support group says clear as day "SUDDEN INFANT DEATH SYNDROME (SIDS) ". That means that our children have been taken by SIDS!!! We cant go kiss them or tuck them in at night.....THEY ARE either BURIED 6 FT UNDER or CREMATED. We wont see them grow or hear them talk, or be able to get a hug and a kiss from our children. LAST BUT NOT LEAST...HOW DARE YOU TELL ME TO GO F*** MYSELF....YOU DONT KNOW A D*** THING ABOUT HOW I FEEL OR WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH!! YOU LOOK AT YOUR CHILD, YOU CAN KISS HIM AND SEE HIM SMILE. YOU ARE WATCHING YOUR SON GROW !!! I VISIT MY SON AT A CEMETERY! YOU BUY OUTFITS TO CELEBRATE HOLIDAYS....I HAVE TO FIND ORNAMENTS AND THINGS TO DECORATE HIS GRAVE!  SIDS IS WHAT I HAVE TO LIVE WITH FOR THE REST OF MY F***ING LIFE.....I HAVE TO LIVE MY LIFE EACH DAY WITHOUT MY CHILD NOT KNOWING HOW HE WOULD BE OR WHO HE WOULD BECOME!!!  THIS IS SOMETHING THAT I WOULDNT EVEN WISH ON THE LIKES OF YOU!!! You could at least have the decency to acknowledge our pain...and you should be thankful that YOU ARE BLESSED TO STILL HAVE YOUR SON!!!!

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I am giving you a standing ovation for this post...I couldn\'t have said it better.
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beautiful, good for you!!!! great journal
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wonderfully put! i couldn\'t have said it better myself!
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AMEN hunny! Perfectly written!!!!!!!!!!!! Love ya
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You are completely right! Great journal entry.
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very well put
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I so totally agree with you! This just brought tears to my eyes. I have not lost a baby to sids but I have lost a baby to miscarriage so I can kind of sympathize with you. What crule people there are out there.
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Great journal entry! Your such a strong person and I admire you. God bless you and prayers and hugs to you and your family.
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i agree with everyone else!
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Wow is all I can say. Good for you. I have not lost a child to SIDS, but I have to misscarriage. We have to stand up for not only ourselves for others. You go girl!!
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You said it!!
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Awesome entry!!
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ureka!!! the words have been taken outta my mouth!
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Awesome, just as if it came from the heart of all of us!