How can you tell if a Surrogate or an Egg donor is being truthful on their profile?
Of course there are risks of a surrogate and/or egg donor not being truthful on their profile, however, there are a couple good ways to verify that the information they provide is true.
One of the best ways to ensure truthfulness is to find a reputable agency that does in-depth interviews with the girls before they are placed on the database for parents to see. A good agency will spend a lot of time in the beginning, when the surrogate or donor applies to the agency, to talk with them and to make sure that key information is accurate. For example, if a girl list that they went to a specific school, then the agency will ask them to provide official transcripts or some other official way to verify this information and then be able to confirm to you that the information that she has provided is true.
If you are looking to verify her family ethnicity or her athleticism then you can always ask for photos to prove that she is athletic such as photos of her in sports or proof of athletic awards she has received. You can also ask her to provide photos of her family to show their ethnicity. Most girls, if the photos are available, are happy to provide this for you.
Another good way to verify information that is most important to you is to actually speak with the Surrogate or Egg donor before you commit to a match with them. A good number of donors and especially surrogates will agree to do an in person meeting or a skype call before being officially matched with them. Any questions that you need more clarification on can be asked at that time. You should always trust your gut when judging the responses. If something doesn’t feel right about their answers you can always ask a follow up question to alleviate any worry.
If you have a reputable agency, photos and you also do an in person meeting you then not only have your set of eyes but you also have the eyes and ears of the agency to ensure that the information that is most important to you can be trusted.
One of the best ways to ensure truthfulness is to find a reputable agency that does in-depth interviews with the girls before they are placed on the database for parents to see. A good agency will spend a lot of time in the beginning, when the surrogate or donor applies to the agency, to talk with them and to make sure that key information is accurate. For example, if a girl list that they went to a specific school, then the agency will ask them to provide official transcripts or some other official way to verify this information and then be able to confirm to you that the information that she has provided is true.
If you are looking to verify her family ethnicity or her athleticism then you can always ask for photos to prove that she is athletic such as photos of her in sports or proof of athletic awards she has received. You can also ask her to provide photos of her family to show their ethnicity. Most girls, if the photos are available, are happy to provide this for you.
Another good way to verify information that is most important to you is to actually speak with the Surrogate or Egg donor before you commit to a match with them. A good number of donors and especially surrogates will agree to do an in person meeting or a skype call before being officially matched with them. Any questions that you need more clarification on can be asked at that time. You should always trust your gut when judging the responses. If something doesn’t feel right about their answers you can always ask a follow up question to alleviate any worry.
If you have a reputable agency, photos and you also do an in person meeting you then not only have your set of eyes but you also have the eyes and ears of the agency to ensure that the information that is most important to you can be trusted.
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