Home on Tuesday

My last journal didn't tell the whole story of our trip to Ottawa.  The day after we got here, Cevyn told me that she and Brendan had broken up.  I was a bit confused as they seemed the same as ever.

It seems that Cevyn would like more children and Brendan doesn't.  They discussed it at great length and decided that in the long term. they had differing expectations.  So she and the girls will be moving out and Brendan will rent a 3 bedroom townhouse with 2 friends in the same complex.  It isn't ideal but the girls will still have access to the pools and playground as their dad will be there.

I have never seem a more amicable breakup ever.  Brendan is now sleeping in the basement but they spend time together and the twins have their mom and dad.  I commented to Cevyn that it was hard to get my head around the fact that they are not together as outwardly. they look like a loving couple.  She said that she was good friends with Brendan before they began dating and they don't see why they can't be good friends now.  They have discussed which furniture goes and which stays.  They will be living close to one another and will have an open door policy.  She said she thinks they well be great coparents.  Today they were outside sliding down the hills in back of their townhouse like a big happy family - which they really are.  I am blown away by the maturity they are showing. putting the girls first.

I had coffee with Brendan's mom.  We were both sad but understand.  Neither of us want them to stay together if they are not happy. She was worried that Cevyn might move to a small town where rents are cheaper but opted to stay close by.

Both Brendan and Cevyn are wonderful caring people.  We love them both.  

So Joe has been chauffering Cevyn to appointments while I baby sat.  The girs are chatting up a storm, most of which I don't understand.  Some words come out very clearly like "Papa. out".  Joe takes them outside to the playground a lot.  We also get ordered to read!  They love stories.  It is just wonderful hearing new words every day.  The most fun is when the say "whee" when the are sliding down a hill.  Sierra now says "go whee".

I am sad that we have to leave them on Tuesday.  I think they are going to miss us too.

Lisa,  It has been hard these last few days.  You are soooooooo missed.  We are going to visit your grave tomorrow.  I know you are proud of that wonderul girl you raised.  But crap Lisa, she needs you now.  And so do I.  I miss you always and love you forever.  Mummy