Holding Steady
I'm currently agonizing over whether to remove the question mark from "Holding Steady" or leave the question mark and add an "II". Again, I poke gentle fun at myself for the *Important Matters* I use to paralyze myself to dissociation. How important is ^it^?
Big Bro and I resumed discussion of the winter holidays while surfing his school website last night. I gently reasserted the possibility of his spending those holidays with Grandma and Grampa. He glossed over that possibility and kept the conversation to the more general timeline of his personal days off. I let him lead the way. The lawyer clog on the other side of the connection hasnae moved an inch that I am aware of and I amnae even close to brave enough to go fishing in those waters just now. I feel like contracting a lawyer puts the proverbial ball squarely in their court and I will work with whatever ball gets served, when it gets served. I donae see the sense in meeting trouble half way on this score. Shake that legal sceptor, wise man. My focus is on staying out of harm's way while you play. I ain't even gonna try to guess what your next play will be.
Bedtime was peaceful and the peace is still tangible over the sleeping household. I am performing every superstitisious gesticulation in my data bank when I say I think this little ship of fools is holding steady. Still praying my ABC's. Please send back the letters that I need.
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Letting Big Bro lead the way with regards to visits sounds like the best way to go. My eldest had warring grandmothers for a while and I learned early on to side with my daughter first, my mother second.
I think your following the wise path with regards to the legalities swirling around. Sometimes it’s just better to step back and let things go which way they will. For me staying out of my attorneys way was far more effective & less stressful for me during the custody suits involving my ex’s family.
Superstitious away my friend. I’m all for indulging in them. They provide a nonsensical comfort and stability when I’m just trying to balance.
Prayers, hugs, knocking on wood, a few horse shoes, support & lots of love my friend!
Yea, being on the paternal side of a lawyer shoot-out puts me in a culturally marginalized position. Personally, I don't mind being culturally marginalized in those yaddah blahs. I still dream of seeing more of this amazing world we live in and the battle of the sexes is not a banner I ever would have chosen to serve under any circumstances. Let maternal wisdom reign. I's a-getting my mother-of-sons ass to anywhere but here, Barbie Q. Be wise, Mama. You the Boss.
As a DIL, Mama was a cultural cliche. "Monster-in-law" is the only job description she had available for my man-spoiling ass. As a daughter, she suffered cPTSD at the hands of her family patriarch and his minions. Hither and tither stirs the ever-after. As I wonder anew if we are grieving co-grandparents or STBX lovers. . .
I'm still not saluting either banner in the Mom vs. Pop dramas, not even when Pop calls me, "Mom." Sorry son. You're on your own for the STBX dramas, even in the after-life. I'm just looking for data I can work with, whatever the source.
Glad bedtime was peaceful, arfie. Steady prayers held out for you today.
Steady as she goes. Hugs and prayers.
I think you see very clear arfie cause the focus you have right now is soupy on the children and your own steadying pace forward after such a shocking time. Triple hugs
Sorry I'm not much help. I know absolutely nothing about children.
The chips seem to have fallen in place for the sisters to start pre-school next Tuesday. Big Sis is so excited that her back pack is already packed and her latest old enough to be new fashion accessory. So far, Big Sis is a serious clothes hound. Maybe just a sign of boredom.
Lil Sis started walking this week. Is it possible she has doubled her walking effort to campaign for early admission to the toddler class? Swim lessons for all tonight.
I think I know two senior citizens who are overdue for self-maintenance time.
Self maintenance time sounds like a great idea and much needed plan, Arfie. With daycare in the works, hopefully more chips fall into place & you can also get some time for you so you can recharge.
Hugs & love, my friend!
The longer the children stay with you, the less likely cps will be to take them out of the routine. Your house sounds peaceful and im glad for you. Continued hugs and prayers Arfie.