His First Urologist appointment
Yesterday was his first urologist appointment with Dr. Lee who also specializes in male infertility. He was referred to us by my ob/gyn. All in all, it was very informative and I feel positive that we are going in the right direction. He sat with us and asked us, mostly him, many questions regarding his history and life style. Ian described how he was injured in his groin while playing basketball in college. The dr. went over his last SA test and performed an exam. He did say that his numbers were not bad but his count was significantly low. And he also said what every doctors says that we are very lucky that we got pregnant once so that's definitely a positive. His exam revealed a varicocele which he knew he had anyway. The doctor said considering the severity of his injury, his testicles looked good (so that's good!). While at this point he cannot determine the exact cause yet, he suggested he make some slight lifestyle changes including diet, alcohol intake and no steam/sauna! I actually found out that he sits in the steam room almost every time he works out, like 4 times a week! I had no idea! OMG I thought he knew not to do that. That was a shocker. The doctor said that although the injury may be the cause for the low sperm count, there may be other factors that effect it as well and we need to try everything. Also, he mentioned surgery to correct the varicocele but was not ept to rush into that. He even mentioned fertility treatments and possibly hormone treatments (depending on the results of the blood tests) before we went that route which I thought was unusual. In the meantime, he needs to get another SA test done and blood tests to check hormone levels. We'll meet with him again after those tests are done. So although I was so happy we've gotten to this point, it was like pulling teeth to get here. I know I should be happy he's come this far but I feel he should want to jump to do this, but he's not. That's a little upsetting to me. After the appointment, we got into a small argument because I let him know I was worried about how long it would take him to make these next few appointments considering his track record. He got all defensive and said he didn't need to be treated like a kid. Uh!!! So frustrating! I mean listening him talk to the doctor and talk to everyone else, he's ready to do all this but his actions are not showing otherwise. I'm kind of at a loss. I have to believe that all these appointments and exams and tests are just constant reminders of his inability to get me pregnant and I'm sure it's a bit of a downer on his ego. He's very sucessful in everything he does and I don't think he's used to failure beyond his control. I guess all I can do is wait and see how things happen on their own. The last thing I want to do is argue with him. I just wish this could be easier. I guess looking back at where we were a year ago, we have made some progress and are definitely closer to having our dreams come true!