HELP..thing go from BAD TO WORSE
Well, I guess I would say my stress level has gone up up up..I finally had to end up going to pick up my mom at 8p.m. Thursday night....She is a Pain..but I love her...all she wants to do is talk about...wanting to die...pray for me to die...a couple of weeks ago and I went off on her and told her I had a 45 year old son who wanted to live so bad...so how dare her....
Anyway, the place she was I would not put an animal in that place...so I talked to my sister and I told her my plans...and what I had to do.. so right now she is with me...there a very nice nursing home here where I live, but I live in a different state and have to get her having a Indiana residince...6 months....if I can get her in the hospital then she would be able to claim Indiana Residence..
Well still fighting with hubby..but oh well...he is here to take care of her when I am not so he has a "babysit" guess maybe that is somewhat a good job for him...I went out most of the day yesterday and he stayed with her...but after what he has done, he needs to learn that there it is not going to be an easy slide as before....
I did get the house signed over in my name...YEA CELEBRATION...
After I got home last afternoon...my mother tried to start a fight....from 4 to 9 ....finally she went bed...cause she couldn't make me mad...
She is trying to make demands.....on me and it is not work....
so it is 7 30 A.M. and she is staring it again....OH WELL..HER PROBLEM..she is just going to have to adjust....
Hoping that neither of them can break me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for listening...
Anyway, the place she was I would not put an animal in that place...so I talked to my sister and I told her my plans...and what I had to do.. so right now she is with me...there a very nice nursing home here where I live, but I live in a different state and have to get her having a Indiana residince...6 months....if I can get her in the hospital then she would be able to claim Indiana Residence..
Well still fighting with hubby..but oh well...he is here to take care of her when I am not so he has a "babysit" guess maybe that is somewhat a good job for him...I went out most of the day yesterday and he stayed with her...but after what he has done, he needs to learn that there it is not going to be an easy slide as before....
I did get the house signed over in my name...YEA CELEBRATION...
After I got home last afternoon...my mother tried to start a fight....from 4 to 9 ....finally she went bed...cause she couldn't make me mad...
She is trying to make demands.....on me and it is not work....
so it is 7 30 A.M. and she is staring it again....OH WELL..HER PROBLEM..she is just going to have to adjust....
Hoping that neither of them can break me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for listening...
Replies
Stay strong!!!
Prayers for you...it isn\'t easy being a caregiver! Hugs!!!
I have cared for my parents since 08, when they complain I feel the same way...it is precious gift to be alive...my son died far too soon, so deal with it. They are both in homes now, so I have just me to deal with. Good luck, stay strong..
hugs, Rebecca
Stay strong ! It will be hard but the outcome will turn out in your favor. Find a good place in your mind to visit when they try to break you. You are a survivior.
Hugs Penny
Hang in - stick to your guns! I hope it all works out with your mom.
Big hugs, Marlene
stay strong and hang on to your strength, you can do it , MARCIA
My thoughts and prayers are with you, Sandi.
With love,
Leda
Sandi, I agree. Stay strong. My mother does the same thing and has for years. She says, over & over, \"I am going to die, its time for me to die\" etc, etc. It pushes my buttons too & I have said to her, \"Be grateful, Eddie only had 37 years!!!\". I guess they don\'t understand how much these comments hurt us. You are a wonderful daughter. She is lucky to have you. Love and prayers, Linda
Sandi--do whatever you can to take care of yourelf. You\'re dealing with a huge amount of stress, and it cannot be easy--not even close to easy! My heart is with you and prayers for strength and wise decisions.
love, Margery Ann
Hugs dear Sandi, try to stay strong, count to 10, and 10 again and then to 100, take a walk, but take care of you.
MaryLou