heavy rain//right eye is blurry//frauds and thieves and worse, like being married solo
my right eye is blurry i noticed lately and when tired its irritated. need to get eye wash and figure this out. i should have mentioned it to the doctor(s) the other day. i realized it was serious when it is blurry with and without glasses and close up and far away. so its not vision? its something else. that sucks. something else to deal with. how do people do this that have a zillion kids? seriously. there is always so much to deal with. vicki was saying, there was only one person in her marriage, her. everything was on her, but he did supply the money part. could be worse. if you have a thief for a husband (or worse) and all the guy is, is another stressor and liability. its not only everything on you, there is no plus to it at all. with a criminal of any sort (if you commit crime you are a criminal, it has nothing to do with jail or being arrested or found guilty, you know who you are and what you are), you can't go out anywhere with them at all and not worry an awful lot about it so why bother? i remember when au was married to kt, she used to say this allll the time and i never knew what she meant (especially since she is almost as bad or worse much of the time) but back then, i never knew what she meant. i was still a kid and she would always go on about it. then her friends would point out that au's brother was actually WORSE than kt so why say anything and all the hushed 'people aren't perfect thing.' hmmmm. there are "faults" and there is psychopath. two different things. i actually comprehend that now.
then there is bda's family and the whole organized crime kind of thing without being mafia, or several judges/lawyers, including ones from joa's family and up north, and a zillion times worse down south and their families and what goes on there and you kind of want to fall over and faint - so much easier to avoid them all, since our system for some reason isn't executing all of them, and why isn't it? you can't take criminals anywhere, especially thieves or worse -- like with one of the ex's who is a chiro doing business in west palm, his father's (no blood) family was connected to low-end mafia. the ex is a pedophile (and worse) and still walking around and running a practice and stealing and fraud and all the other crap he was always into - the childhood crimes don't go away - people just get better and better at covering it up, that is what "white collar" crime is, it just becomes adulthood crime and then one day that person is 50 or 60 years old and still like that and you say to them, how long are you going to blame your upbringing for everything you do, especially since the stuff you do is worse than what you came from.
his second wife KNEW he is a pedophile (he told her in advance), she had two young boys from a previous marriage and married him anyway, knowing this because she liked the way it looked to marry a doctor. wtf. kind of like the lawyer who married a lawyer who she knew was a thief, rapist and murderer who steals evidence to win cases etc., but she liked the "image" of being with him so married him anyway. are you all crazy. and have kids with him. that kind of behavior is genetic. how do you live with yourselves and the latter one was covering up which makes her a criminal as well and when she was ordered to pay his bills, including to his victims she balked at supporting him while all his money went to pay everyone he owed money to (like millions, he was on a payment plan because he steals so much), so she stopped paying and everyone at the courthouse was going on about that - saying they deserve each other, they can visit each other in boy and girl prisons. boy did that place turn out to be nothing but everything they describe hell or Satan as being.
if a criminal spouse is also a saboteur or at all abusive, that is a life of pure misery. so sad. that is an awful life. that is worse than just solo with financial support, though v sounds unhappy again?
i'll never know how the first one would have gone, he's been deceased longer than i knew him. we were more alike than with the second one. with the second one, everyone kept saying that everything he is pretending to be, which is so similar to my first one, is all lies, even his looks. wow! but people lie all the time so you ignore them. well, that was actually true. boy is that scary. its hard to comprehend someone is other than what you have always thought they were, once you get used to believing they are a certain way. then it becomes, well who are you? you also wonder, if its your own need to believe that they are their first impression, what they said they were, instead of what they unravelled to be twelve years later. grrrrr. with steven it has turned out so completely different than what i thought i knew of him at the get-go i'm generally in shock every time something new pops up. the medical stuff, i knew going in. baffling that i didn't know the rest of it, especially since some of it, i was THERE when it began before we were even together.
i don't think i ever comprehended what he was talking about. not really. it just didn't compute because its so far off and strange. alllll of it is. from the get-go: why say you are from vanderbilt university if you are from lipscomb? (later on he ended up going to vanderbilt for a year i think, so he says, well, it ended up true anyway, just at a different time. that is true. but its still weird, especially since he claimed he was also going for his masters there. grrrr. tm pointed that out at the time it was going on, because tm was genuinely from upenn and going for his masters at upenn and on and on, you know how the school thing is (and then there are the true "cases", where you say school and they think you mean elementary school. whoa. what year are you living in? omg! does that mean your education ended at elementary level? i don't get that part. still don't.
i hate when people do that, even though i've seen it a zillion times by now, that i'm to the point of not believing anything anyone says at all. just nod and smile, kind of thing. like that woman at work, why say your son was accepted at mit (he wasn't) but chose lycoming university in pa (its a small pricey college in williamsport, pa and he left with his art major girlfriend anyway to a state college on the shore. lol.) that is nothing compared to the bad stuff i'm thinking of with steven...and another would be the other j -- he and his mother were another set of fraud and thieves -- his mother was like that since childhood and he wasn't much better, but so preppy looking you would never guess it in a zillion years. he is another "doctor," who continued with stealing and isn't practicing because he didn't pass the boards anywhere. similar to our former neighbor at the house by the university who works as a physician assistant instead, (at least he is honest and didn't pay someone to take the boards for him like so many do). as far as i know the other-j isn't doing that because he is contagious.
its like with theft, people who steal small things, also steal big things. people who lie about little things, also lie about big things.
then there is bda's family and the whole organized crime kind of thing without being mafia, or several judges/lawyers, including ones from joa's family and up north, and a zillion times worse down south and their families and what goes on there and you kind of want to fall over and faint - so much easier to avoid them all, since our system for some reason isn't executing all of them, and why isn't it? you can't take criminals anywhere, especially thieves or worse -- like with one of the ex's who is a chiro doing business in west palm, his father's (no blood) family was connected to low-end mafia. the ex is a pedophile (and worse) and still walking around and running a practice and stealing and fraud and all the other crap he was always into - the childhood crimes don't go away - people just get better and better at covering it up, that is what "white collar" crime is, it just becomes adulthood crime and then one day that person is 50 or 60 years old and still like that and you say to them, how long are you going to blame your upbringing for everything you do, especially since the stuff you do is worse than what you came from.
his second wife KNEW he is a pedophile (he told her in advance), she had two young boys from a previous marriage and married him anyway, knowing this because she liked the way it looked to marry a doctor. wtf. kind of like the lawyer who married a lawyer who she knew was a thief, rapist and murderer who steals evidence to win cases etc., but she liked the "image" of being with him so married him anyway. are you all crazy. and have kids with him. that kind of behavior is genetic. how do you live with yourselves and the latter one was covering up which makes her a criminal as well and when she was ordered to pay his bills, including to his victims she balked at supporting him while all his money went to pay everyone he owed money to (like millions, he was on a payment plan because he steals so much), so she stopped paying and everyone at the courthouse was going on about that - saying they deserve each other, they can visit each other in boy and girl prisons. boy did that place turn out to be nothing but everything they describe hell or Satan as being.
if a criminal spouse is also a saboteur or at all abusive, that is a life of pure misery. so sad. that is an awful life. that is worse than just solo with financial support, though v sounds unhappy again?
i'll never know how the first one would have gone, he's been deceased longer than i knew him. we were more alike than with the second one. with the second one, everyone kept saying that everything he is pretending to be, which is so similar to my first one, is all lies, even his looks. wow! but people lie all the time so you ignore them. well, that was actually true. boy is that scary. its hard to comprehend someone is other than what you have always thought they were, once you get used to believing they are a certain way. then it becomes, well who are you? you also wonder, if its your own need to believe that they are their first impression, what they said they were, instead of what they unravelled to be twelve years later. grrrrr. with steven it has turned out so completely different than what i thought i knew of him at the get-go i'm generally in shock every time something new pops up. the medical stuff, i knew going in. baffling that i didn't know the rest of it, especially since some of it, i was THERE when it began before we were even together.
i don't think i ever comprehended what he was talking about. not really. it just didn't compute because its so far off and strange. alllll of it is. from the get-go: why say you are from vanderbilt university if you are from lipscomb? (later on he ended up going to vanderbilt for a year i think, so he says, well, it ended up true anyway, just at a different time. that is true. but its still weird, especially since he claimed he was also going for his masters there. grrrr. tm pointed that out at the time it was going on, because tm was genuinely from upenn and going for his masters at upenn and on and on, you know how the school thing is (and then there are the true "cases", where you say school and they think you mean elementary school. whoa. what year are you living in? omg! does that mean your education ended at elementary level? i don't get that part. still don't.
i hate when people do that, even though i've seen it a zillion times by now, that i'm to the point of not believing anything anyone says at all. just nod and smile, kind of thing. like that woman at work, why say your son was accepted at mit (he wasn't) but chose lycoming university in pa (its a small pricey college in williamsport, pa and he left with his art major girlfriend anyway to a state college on the shore. lol.) that is nothing compared to the bad stuff i'm thinking of with steven...and another would be the other j -- he and his mother were another set of fraud and thieves -- his mother was like that since childhood and he wasn't much better, but so preppy looking you would never guess it in a zillion years. he is another "doctor," who continued with stealing and isn't practicing because he didn't pass the boards anywhere. similar to our former neighbor at the house by the university who works as a physician assistant instead, (at least he is honest and didn't pay someone to take the boards for him like so many do). as far as i know the other-j isn't doing that because he is contagious.
its like with theft, people who steal small things, also steal big things. people who lie about little things, also lie about big things.
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the lipscomb thing was a red flag and then they\'ll say, he was trying to impress you so it doesn\'t count because Vanderbilt is a better college. you impress people by lying? i think that says reams. now are you the kind of liar that lies so much you can\'t even keep track of your lies, or are you the kind that lies at certain times to gain a certain thing. though a liar is a liar.
A liar and a theif are cut from the same cloth mostly. Usually a liar gets caught in their own lies. Guess they have a hard time remembering what they said to who.
they did a study on thieves and discovered alllll criminals are all three, murderer, rapist and thief. its never just one of those. if murder is a capital offense then the other two crimes should be as well.
personally, i think malicious lying should be added to that dark triad, and that most malicious liars are also thieves, murderers and rapists. what amazes me is when they come from a \"family\" of thieves, murderers and rapists, they have no concept at all that they should NOT be murderers, rapists and thieves. they seem to think that all people are that way and have no clue at all why any of it is illegal or a \"death\" sentence if you are caught and properly prosecuted. to them, you pay off a bunch of people and only \"suckers\" don\'t do this. to them, THAT is reality and anything else is a lie. totally evil lives.
Use of the term \"dark\" implies that these acts are malevolent/evil.
the bottom line for all criminals is that they all begin by bullying. so make bullying a capital offense and that would kill off allll future criminals. that would work.