Heather's Birthday!

Dear John,  31 years ago today we were blessed with our first born daughter, Heather.  The look on your face when you held her for the first time said it all.  You were the proudest guy around, we couldn't have wiped that smile off your face if we tried.  You were beaming from ear to ear.  Today is the first of many, the first of your kids birthday without you.  I have been crying all morning, miss you so much.  Tonight will be hard to as we always took the kids out for their birthdays.  Not much to celebrate without you here.  Miss you more than you could ever imagine and the pain is unbearable, wish I were with you.  See you Soon. Love Always, Dra'

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deleted_user
deleted_user

I am sorry you have to go through your birthday day alone...I do wish your daughter a Happy Birthday...
KipB
KipB

Happy birthday to Heather and John will be with you guys as you celebrate her wonderful day. Hang in there!! Hugs, Kip.
swindy
swindy

I know it is hard but it is something we all have to go through. All of those firsts. And remember that your children need you to keep things as normal as possible and John will be with you in spirit. Diane
deleted_user
deleted_user

So sorry you are having a rough time. It is hard to celebrate these days without them but that is what they would want us to do. I hope she has the best birthday possible. Hugs!!!
oceanamoonjl
oceanamoonjl

I\'m sorry that you have to go through all these 1st things without your husband!! I KNOW its painful & hard, I recall my 1st year and all the 1st everythings! It still hurts on certain holidays and birthdays etc. But its getting a bit easier, now I\'ve had almost 3 years to learn to cope with it all. May you find some peaceful moments soon!
Blessings to you & my thoughts are with you in empathy,Jess
pathoflife
pathoflife

Andree\',

What once was a happy occasion seems to dissolve into an endurance competition \"of sorts.\" Those many firsts that you mentioned are rough to get through during that first year. Hang tight and don\'t let the grief steal what is so very important to your family. The sun will shine upon your world again, but it plays a game of hit and run until later in your journey. Please know that life will be better as you travel down this road; yes, impossible as it sounds, it does happen. Happy B-day to your Heather. Cherish the special moments as they come into your existence. You will be glad for it as your life finds it new normal. Blessings to you. TJ
vinlin
vinlin

Happy birthday to your daughter. I know these firsts are so hard. My husbands birthday is Friday. He would be 61 yrs old. I do not know how I\'ll be. This past week I\'ve been crying a lot cause Thursday has been 2 mos. Having aches and pains too. It\'s stress they say. Things will get better. I pray for the day I feel like a human again. If I ever do....
tink59
tink59

Thanks for all the Blessings, Hugs, Prayers, I got home after work to a house that was decorated by my youngest daughter and my 2 grandchildren. They had made cupcakes and a cake for their Mom, balloons, ice cream they were so excited to be able to do that for her it was amazing, John would have been proud. After dessert we went eat out and it was like old times. Thanks again for everything. Andree\'