Heartbroken
I was in a 10yr physical abuse relationship and than a 10yr emotional abuse relationship I just got out of and feel so heartbroken and lost I know I am better off without him but when you are with a person for so long you get use to a person and always remember the good times when they leave I just don't know what to do to move on and finally be happy
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Like any loss of a loved one, time is the only thing that can really help. Understanding that you are better off is something that you need to remember and believe in, if even just saying it. Nothing anyone says can help much right now but know that better days will come and you will work through this. Yes, there were good times but no one deserves physical AND mental abuse in any form or fashion. You are a person with feelings and deserve to be safe and at peace, as you travel towards happiness. I hope you are listening. Good thoughts my friend. :)
Thank you today is just a bad day I know it will get better just some days are harder than others
Maybe not now but in time journaling can be a good way of channeling off thoughts, kind of like setting them aside for a break. Maybe that's what you're doing now .. (duh lol). Mindfulness is another coping tool that might help, takes practice but can change a bad or hurting mood. Finally, remember that there are a lot of good people here that can relate and understand. I hope you'll continue to post often.