Heart broken
Had to write in here tonight cus I have no one to talk to.
And as I write this tears are going down my face. My boyfriend David broke up with me today. Why? Cus he called our relationship long distance. It was only a 30 min drive and he used to say he loved to drive. He also said cus I never believed he never cheated on me. I tried so hard not to say things but I always did. I should have known better. Some of his excuses seemed lame to me. I was always telling him what I did or where I went but he never told me what he did. It might come out somewhere in our talks after a week or so. I don't know why he was that way. He said he never told his mother where he went either. He would just leave. She's 80 yrs old and he used her for a couple of excuses too. I know how older people get so maybe he was telling the truth there. But I don't know for sure.
All I know is that my heart is broken and I miss him already. I wish I could change things. I messed up bad I guess. He said no, that is how I am. But I don't want to be that way. I don't know what to do now. I feel lost and lonely. There will be no more texts from him and I unfriended him on face book. He wanted to remain friends but I can't do that. It would only give me hope of him being more than just a friend again. He said his ex girlfriends have said he is a better friend than a boyfriend. Sorry I can't be friends and he knows that. Maybe that is wrong but I've been that way my whole life. He says he loves me so why break up. We could work it out. I would try harder not to say anything. I just don't know what to do or what to say that would bring him back. I'm lost!
And as I write this tears are going down my face. My boyfriend David broke up with me today. Why? Cus he called our relationship long distance. It was only a 30 min drive and he used to say he loved to drive. He also said cus I never believed he never cheated on me. I tried so hard not to say things but I always did. I should have known better. Some of his excuses seemed lame to me. I was always telling him what I did or where I went but he never told me what he did. It might come out somewhere in our talks after a week or so. I don't know why he was that way. He said he never told his mother where he went either. He would just leave. She's 80 yrs old and he used her for a couple of excuses too. I know how older people get so maybe he was telling the truth there. But I don't know for sure.
All I know is that my heart is broken and I miss him already. I wish I could change things. I messed up bad I guess. He said no, that is how I am. But I don't want to be that way. I don't know what to do now. I feel lost and lonely. There will be no more texts from him and I unfriended him on face book. He wanted to remain friends but I can't do that. It would only give me hope of him being more than just a friend again. He said his ex girlfriends have said he is a better friend than a boyfriend. Sorry I can't be friends and he knows that. Maybe that is wrong but I've been that way my whole life. He says he loves me so why break up. We could work it out. I would try harder not to say anything. I just don't know what to do or what to say that would bring him back. I'm lost!
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So sorry to hear this Vinlin. Hugs.
Don\'t know what more I can say,cause stuff like this hurts. I care and wish you the best my friend. Hugs and compassion
Thanks! No there is nothing anyone can do. It hurts so much cus you give someone your heart and thought they felt the same way. I\'ll never understand it.
I know you may find this hard but maybe you were right in believing he did cheat on you. You do have your reasons for saying this. 30 mins. is not far away. I think it sounds like an excuse. I think you deserve better. I am so sorry you are hurting so bad. I think there is someone else out there for you. Give it time. Sending big hugs to you.
He said twice yesterday that he never cheated on me. I just thought that. Everyone thinks I deserve better and maybe I do but you can\'t always help who you fall in love with. I know this will take me a long time to get over. I sure don\'t want to jump into anything right away. It would not be fair to anyone feeling the way I do now. Time will help I\'m sure. Thanks for writing. Hugs!
It is easy to fall for someone really hard. But, to maintain a relationship there has to be a certain amount of trust between the couple. If your sixth sense was buzzing in your ear, then it probably is time to move on. Because, accusing him of cheating will break up your relationship real fast. That is something to work on. We can\'t always control the feelings of falling in love, and I truly think that is a strong drive in humans. You can control the breaking up end of it. It is never easy, but feeling that you have been cheated on is worse. Stand proud, and hold your head up. You will make it. Before you know it, time has passed and you are smiling again. Then you may just meet your soul mate - when you least expect it.
Thanks for writing. I never came right out and asked him if he was cheating. It\'s just some of his excuses seemed lame to me and he would get upset if I said anything about them. Like he couldn\'t stay very long that one Sunday cus his Mom was afraid of the snow storm. Which they didn\'t get. Yes I know she is 80 yrs old and all that. But still afraid of a snow storm when she only goes out to Drs appoints and shopping. Things like that. Well I\'ve got to get going. Thanks for writing. Hugs!
No, you cannot help who you fall in love with. But I do think you definitely deserve better! I know it will take a long time to heal your broken heart. You will find Mr. Right when it is time. Don\'t give up. Hugs
Yeah I know. The thing is some of my so called friends, esp one guy don\'t even want me to mention it. He is a bit strange and that\'s why we are only friends. Plus on paper he is still married. 5 yrs, can ya believe that? I know it took me a long time after Vinnie died to get into the dating thing again. Everyone says not to give up. People even older than me find love. time will tell I guess. Have a good night. Hugs
so sorry vinlin. hope things work out. lots of people are very private and put up walls. hope you feel better. xxoo
I am so very sorry,dear Vinlin(((Hugs)))
You deserve so much better! Every Day is a New Beginning!
Keep your head up high! Take one Step at a time! You can do it!
Sending best wishes your way,always!
Love and Hugs,
Maria
That is what people keep telling me. Not easy when the heart is broken. I\'ll survive and get on with my life. One day at a time....
Hugs
Yes, you will get through this. Just need to give it time to heal your broken heart. One day at a time is the way to do it. Sending hugs.
Thank you!