healing

I just wanted to share that my granddaughter Christina met my ex-husband, Eddie's father last night. I've written before about how before my son passed his father had tried to make amends to Eddie after several years (from the time he was 14) until about 5 years ago my ex hadn't seen or called Ed. When he did call to tell Eddie that he was sober for 9 years and had become a Christian & had apologized Ed had listened but wasn't ready to see him. After Eddie passed last year I had to locate my ex to tell him Eddie passed. Of course he was heartbroken, consumed with guilt, etc. He has wanted to meet Joshua & Christina, but they were angry that all these years he had hurt their Dad.
Christina decided to meet him & so we all went out to dinner last night. Christina was very nervous, but since she is expecting she is very interested in that side of the family now. Ken, me , the ex, Christina, her boyfriend & my DIL had dinner. Josh decided not to join us & that's OK. When he is ready, he's ready. The ex brought Christina roses & gifts for the other members of the family.We shared pics, stories & Larry explained that he was suffering with PTSD (from serving in Vietnam) & alcoholism & that was why he was never around & he apologized to her. 
It was a positive visit. I think it was healing for all of us to forgive & let go of the anger. Driving home I was sad as I am somewhat jealous that Larry has other children, many of whom look so much like Eddie that it is disarming. As I shared these feelings with Ken, I looked up & on the overpass was a neon lit sign that said "ED". It was the "CLOSED" sign that indicated the weigh station was closed. But I said, "Look Ken, its Ed! He's reminding me I still have him with me." Now Ken, naysayer that he can be sometimes said, "that's the closed sign. The first few letters are out." Well, I know that, "Mr. Let's State the Obvious", but nonetheless I know what I was feeling & I know, what I know. It was Ed comforting me. I personally have driven that hiighway hundreds & hundreds of times & that sign has said closed or open, not ED! God can use a highway sign if he wishes. I'll take it!
So I embrace the healing in our extended family & I embrace the signs.
Love & peace to all my dear sisters, Linda
 

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CorriesMom
CorriesMom

I love reading your journal of healing and hope. Sometimes it takes decades but there always is a rainbow and an answer of peace for each of us. I\'m grateful for your ex\'s sake that he has finally been able to emerge from his decades of darkness.

What a wonderful healing dinner and sign from Ed waving \"hello\"!

Sending love and grateful hugs ~ Debbie
biowoman
biowoman

This is all wonderful! The family mending...the sign....all of it...tell that hubby...poopoo...we KNOW when it is a sign from our children...love and hugs...Karen
Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

This is wonderful to read and yes, so very healing. To be able to learn from our past and try to do better now is what it\'s all about. I hope your heart feels more peaceful and the sign was the best from Ed. We know and that\'s all that matters. :) Thank you for sharing the ongoing healing/forgiveness with us because it\'s such a valuable reminder to do it NOW while we still can with those who still have a pulse. With love, Joanie
Sandi2947
Sandi2947

YES GOD CAN AND DOES!!!!Sandi..Ken\'s mom forever
KimRW
KimRW

I\'m with you Linda on this one...that sign said ED and for good reason!! So glad you had a nice dinner and forgiveness were all part of it. That will help in the healing for all. Love & Hugs, Kim
DunneL
DunneL

I\'m very moved by the healing and the coming together that happened in bringing your granddaugher together with her dad\'s dad. (Not to mention, how important it must be for you too.) It\'s hard to think about the \"good\" that can come from so much tragedy, and I don\'t think that the tragedy CAUSED the good but it\'s wonderful when it can be a part of the whole package. And, to pick up on your last journal, your guy, skeptic or not, seems like a very good guy to me. I\'m glad you have Ken there by your side. Love to you, friend.
Missinglisa
Missinglisa

It is good to hear that all went well. And I believe it was Ed!
Hugs,
Marlene - Lisa\'s Mum
dougadoug
dougadoug

Embrace it all - it is all good! Nice to hear Ed is taking care of his Mom. Love those signs when we least expect it. Love to you and your family. Sue