HE LEFT ME, SO WHY NOW DOES HE WANT TO KNOW EVERYTHING!!!
I guess I don't understand if he was soooo unhappy that he had to leave to go find himself, or can't handle the responsibility of his family, then why does he constantly want to know what i'm doing. I have cut off all communication with him now for over a week now. I will respond with a text only if it's about our 10 yr old or money... I will not see him face to face or talk to him on the phone. He sends me text messages all day long "How's Austin?" How are you? How are the dogs? How is the house hunting going? How much is the deposit? Blah Blah Blah....... Every little thing he thinks of he calls or text me. He hasn't been this interested in what I have had to say in the past 10 yrs!!!! Why now when I just want to be left alone, I just want to heal and move on like he said he was doing but I don't see how he could be making his life any better when he spends all is time worrying about mine????????????
I don't get it....
I don't get it....
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The constant contact on his part is ALL ABOUT CONTROL. Keep quiet! Good for you for only responding IF it has somethng to do with the 10-year old or IF YOU NEED MONEY. Trust me, he is NOT WORRIED ABOUT YOU -- he is worried what you and your attorney are planning to do in the name of justice!
Cowgirl Kathi is right--good for you for going dark! He is worried about what your plans and strategies are.
Also, this is is way of justifying destroying the family. He can tell everyone what a great guy he is because he stays in daily contact with you. It\'s bullshit, yes, but it\'s his way of dealing with guilt.
Just continue to ignore him.
Sending loads of hugs!
Thanks Ladies for the support. I started to move this weekend just small stuff and cleaned my new place up nice. It feels goos when I accomplish something on my own. Each day I seem to settle in into my new reality a little better. When he left he said it was so he could work on himself and take care of himself but I realized he isn\'t taking care of anything I AM. He moved in with a friend, he didn\'t have to find a place from scratch like I did. He doesn\'t have the kids, or the animals, or bills to transfer or storage units, or packing up the whole house 21 years of memories to box up. NOTHING!!! I am taking care of business he is just playing like he\'s 20 years old again. Preety soon though who ever is taking care of him this time will get sick of it and hopefully I will be on my way to a new life. Talk to you later.
\"T\"
T, whether or not your stbx EVER gets his shit together should be of no concern to you. You have risen to the occasion and done everything you need to do for you and your 10-year old -- and that\'s a lot under the circumstances. Just keep your eyes on the horizon and don\'t give that dipwad stbx of yours another thought! My X thought becoming single again at 55 was gonna be just great -- but guess what? Once the OW dumped him for good, he realized that he is just another lonely old man wandering around -- no doubt, wondering what in the Hell he did to end up like this. I say \"Sorry, pal. You gotta PAY to play! And I\'m playing and he\'s paying -- DEARLY!\"