He doesnt get it!
Me and my "bf" got in an arguement today... which is nothing new... but this one was the kind that we used to have... where he talks down on me. He was mad because I didnt act like I wanted to see him while he was in town, and he always has to ask for sex...ect. But he calls me names all the time and if we get in an arguement he will tell me to never call him again and find someone else, he calls me a slut and tells me im nasty. And its just getting old!! Everything always has to be his way. But what he doesnt get is of course if he just got through calling me a dumbass hoe im not gonna want to see him. And him calling me a slut obviously would make me not want to have sex. If something is not right then its always my fault! He gets tired of me crying but he NEVER does anything to make me not cry anymore. Or if I dont want to have sex or come see him its ALWAYS my fault. I couldnt tell him today that really im just giving up. Im tired of trying and never getting anywhere. But i cant tell him anything because im always wrong and he wont listen. Im so depressed! :(
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wow...excuses is are excuses...dont let this be the finalstop in your life.
you are so young that you dont even realize that this is the prime time of your life to find mr right,not to stay with mr wrong...and you cant find mr right if you are with mr wrong or even seeing him.
i know how you feel with no friends hence it is too easy to be codependent on a guy that really isnt your friend.
number one= NEVER ALLOW A GUY TO HIT YOU.
OR DISRESPECT YOU OR ABUSE YOU HENCE IT ONLY GETS WORSE AND WORSE.
once they start...it never goes back...
you need a guy that thinks hitting a woman is something they would never do
you need a guy that respects you and treats you like that and someone that you can talk to and grow with without fear of his anger or control...yes he is controlling you most likely bec he is doing the things he is accusing you of...
to keep you under his thumb.
leave leave leave before you get pregnant or lose anymore time on this bozo.
YOU DESERVE BETTER.GOD MADE EACH ONE OF US SPECIAL AND YOU JUST HAVE NOT FOUND ALL YOU TALENTS YET AND YOU CAN WHEN YOU ARE WITH THE RIGHT PERSON OR ALONE BUT NOT WHEN YOU ARE FROZEN BEC YOUR WORLD REVOLVES AROUND THE MR WRONG.
I WANT TO SCREAM IT BEC I GOT HOOKED UP WITH A GUY LIKE THAT IN HIGHSCHOOL AND PART OF ME THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE...WRONG.....IT IS MEAN CONTROL AND ABUSE.HE ALSO DDRANK WHICH AS I GOT OLDER AFTER I LEFT HIM,REALIZED LATER HE WAS A ALCOHOLIC,NOT JUST A DRINKER....
I FINALLY HAD TO MOVE AWAY TO GET AWAY FROM HIM...AND THAT WAS THE BEST THING I EVER DID.
AS YOU FIND YOUR WAY
NEVER TRUST A GUY THAT YOU FIND OUT DECEIVED YOUR OR LIED TO YOU
NEVER BE WITH A THAT GUY,LEAVE RIGHT AWAY FOR GOOD
NEVER LET A GUY HIT YOU AND IF HE DOES,THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER AND THERE IS NOTHING TO DISCUSS..ONE TIME IS TOO MANY
NEVER ALLOW A GUY TO BELITTLE YOU AND MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE HALF A PERSON BEC THEY DO IT TO CONTROL YOU
THE BEST BET IS TO BE WITH A GUY THAT BELIEVES IN GOD BEC THOSE GUYS ARE MORE LIKELY TO TREAT YOU LIKE A LADY AND RESPECT YOU AND TAKE CARE OF YOU LIKE YOU TRULY DESERVE MAKING YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF.
PUT YOURSELF FIRST AND YOUR DIGNITY AND YOUR SELF RESPECT AND THE OTHER WILL FOLLOW.
AND PRAY AND GOD WILL HELP YOU....AND GUIDE YOU...
THIS IS THE NOT THE BEST YOU CAN BE TREATED HENCE
OR THE BEST GUY....YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL GIRL THAT IS VERY SWEET AND TRYING VERY HARD THAT GOT HOOKED UP WITH THE WRONG GUY THAT HAD KILLED YOUR INNER ENERGY AND SELF ESTEEM...DONT LET THAT HAPPEN...GET AWAY FROM HIM.
JOIN A GYM,OR VOLUNTEER SOMEWHERE, OR JOIN A CLUB AT SCHOOL,BUT CHANGE YOUR ROUTINE AND CIRCLES YOURUN IN.
IF YOU WANT CHANGE YOU HAVE TO STOP DOING THE SAME THING WITH THE SAME PEOPLE AND CHANGE YOUR ROUTINES AND YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE.SOMETIMES IT IS CONNECTING THROUGH OTHER PEOPLE THAT WILL FIX YOU UP WITH SOMEONE OR INTRODUCE YOU ARE A CHANCE MEETING BUT YOU CAN NOT BE THERE IF YOU KEEP RUNNING IN THE SAME CIRCLES WITH THIS GUY.
HE NEEDS TO STOP COMING OVER AND YOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND REALIZE...WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG
EVERY decision that you make can mean happiness or misery for the rest of your life...they are no longer temporary decisions...everyone follows you to the next level in life....most young people dont realize this but get told that alot by older people ...us older people have walked your same life with allthe drama and ups and downs and it is because we found out the hard way and dont want others to waste a minute of their lives like we did taking too long to realize things and then messing up other parts until we finally got it right but not as right as we could have if we had been mentored by someone that cared.