Haven't updated for a long time

My ED got married last July. Someone told us in Sept. she peeked at her fb and saw she was engaged, but hadn't looked for awhile. Since I don't have fb I googled out marriage licenses and found out she was married. We weren't invited and not even supposed to know. My friend peeked on her fb and saw she has a new one with her married name. She e-mailed a couple wedding pictures that were on there. One had the photographer's name on it, so I googled out the pictures. The bf's gma had all the important roles that her father and I should have had. They even held a huge vase and everyone brought up a rose to put in it; I suppose to send a message of love. I didn't see any babies in the pictures, so I don't know what happened. She was hinting she was pg before she left. I sent a card and check to where she last was living. At about the same time she sent me an "apology" letter apologizing for taking off, but nothing about the wedding. I noticed the return address was mine. I couldn't understand why because I just found out where she lived last Christmas and decided to send her a Valentine card. We called the apartment complex and found out she moved back to our area last March. We know she got the card because her husband cashed the check. I had the check made out to both of them, but only he signed it. I thought both had to sign it. Makes me wonder if she even knows about it.
Since then we figured out where she works and my dad went to see her. She gave him a hug and kiss and told him she was sorry and promised to contact us. It must've been a front for her co-workers because she never did. We waited 2 weeks then my husband called her work and left a message, but she never called back. He then sent a letter asking if he could come get a haircut, but she never responded. I dont' understand the apology, but not wanting contact.